this stuff hurts. Physical pain is tolerable because we can sense it has limits, parameters that define it and we can tolerate it. Emotional pain
seems to have no limits and it leads to temporary panic sometimes.
I used to feel like you as I to felt I had a soul mate. But that is a bunch of hoooey.
No such thing my friend.
Love isn't defined that way.
What you are suffering from is this crazy notion that the western man has bought into that love is about romance.It is not! Romance is there just to
kick start the process so that real love can begin the process if you both allow it. Sad to say though in todays world that is becoming very difficult
as western men and women have raised up romance as the end all in the love dept.
Romance is "passion idealized". Western women have become very difficult to handle because of this. It's not their fault really because we are the
ones that caused it from us feminizing ourselves.
Western men have become feminists and though on the surface it sounds right, it is only a red herring. I will repeat, NO SUCH THING A SOUL MATE. Love
is deeper than this superficial dream driven by a romantic notion that leaves everyone unfulfilled, male and female. Love takes time and work by both
parties for a relationship to work. Passion is fleeting and temporary based on chemical reactions. Women want more than this.
They need more from men, real men. Plus you are both guilty of trying to make a relationship work that is not based on a covenantal bond. It is
destined to fail by it's own design without it. Western men have to learn how to become men again for their relationships to work. Add to that the
truth that western women have been on a losing trek into feminism. American women are some of the most beautiful women in the world yet the rest of
the world doesn't seem to want them. They are too difficult as they carry male attributes with them into the relationships.
How many websites are there that have American women advertizing to other countries for maariage? There are asian sites, russian sites, philipino
sites, etc... advertizing to the world for mail order brides but not one site for American women? Why? Because they are too difficult and not marriage
material (sorry for the generalizations, of course there are some good American women that understand the male/female roles).
Beautiful, yes!, Difficult, HELL YEAH!!
Your job is to step up and learn from this.
You are acting like a pathetic feminized western male.
I KNOW THIS BECAUSE i WAS ONE.
Love is sooooooooo much deeper than this and it's the man that HAS TO take the lead in this role play of the sexes and women know it deep inside.
Time to step up dude and prepare yourself for a real woman when she presents herself to you.
You have a great op here to grow into one from what you can learn from this seemingly tragic event in your life.
If only western women could understand what the rest of the worlds women seem to know, that we are all little boys when it comes to loving a woman, we
are fragile when it comes to the matters of the heart and they have become flippant and irresponsible with this fact.
I have 2 suggestions
1: learn what real love is and it starts with Yah, the author of love.
In Leviticus 19:18b, we read "Love your fellow as yourself". It has also been translated as "You shall love your neighbor as you do yourself", and
it is generally interpreted in this way. However, Rabbi Abraham J. Twerski, in his book titled "Growing Each Day," page 230, has written that: "The
Torah is stating here a definition of ‘love’: ve’a-havta, the sensation or the experience of love, is lerei’acha kamocha, when you wish for
another that which you wish for yourself.
"What some people consider love may be nothing more than a self-serving relationship. They may ‘love’ something because it satisfies their needs,
but when the object cannot satisfy the need, or the need itself disappears, the love evaporates.
"True love is not self-serving, but self-giving. We love only when we have as intense a desire to please the other person as to be pleased ourselves.
Such an attitude calls for sacrifice, because it may be that we will have to deprive ourselves in order to provide what will please the other
"As children, we are selfish. As we mature, we should develop a spiritual love, which is quite different from our childish physical love. This
spiritual, other-directed love can withstand all challenges. As the Song of Songs says, Even abundant waters cannot extinguish love (8:7
Henry Makow, lol, the champion for all western males caught into the feminzing western culture that is leaving so many relationships empty and
unfulfilling due to men acting like women and women attempting to act like men
good luck on your path to growth and I hope this is the beginning for you, and not the end as I can assure you it is not!