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learn to love yourself first,
Originally posted by mamabeth
reply to post by ErroneousDylan
You are 19 years old,learn to love yourself first,
then you can love someone else.
Originally posted by xApostle
did you read ' A Conversation with God' by Neale Donald Walsh .... you seem to be talking about what he writes buddie... life is all about experience. It can be hard, but that feeling goes so you can experience other stuff... i recently broke up with my ex, I was with her for 12 years since i was 18 ... it was a hard break up but once you try understand it, it does get easy, not straight away but I promise it that it will. Talk to friends if you can or write your feelings down in a diary instead of bottling it up. Have a read of those books, by NDW if you can, there brilliant and uplifting, they make you realise certain things, and when # happens, because it does to everybody you can deal with it better because you undrstand it....
Originally posted by satron
There's not much you can do about it now, since it just happened two days ago. You're going to be miserable for awhile, and that's natural. But once you start to feel better, you need to take the opportunity to reflect on how you invest emotionally with other people, and obviously, you expect too much. Learn that you can go out with someone and not be absolutely head over heels for them. It's better that you aren't, because you're more likely to be taken advantage of. Let it develop, don't just give yourself all at once; only do that once you can find someone that you can have a relationship that has been through a tough time or two. Did you and your ex ever have a tough time before then? If not, then there is no way you could have known how strong your relationship was. Those moments are the telling signs if your relationship will make it for the long term. Don't know if I was any help, but I speak the truth!
Do you know how it feels with your soul-mate (in my reality) leaves you?