reply to post by ErroneousDylan
Hang in there bud. I know it's rough now, but it will get better. I notice you started this around Thanksgiving. Hopefully you've moved on by now.
If not, trust me, you will. I'm 47 and I've been around more than a few blocks so I can tell you from experience that you'll get over this. You
didn't mention it in your thread, but if this was your first love then it's going to be harder still. Been there done that. It's been 32 years out
for me now and I still think about her from time to time. There's just no avoiding that I think. But as they say, time and distance make the heart
grow fonder. I know that its no consolation now, it's just another useless cliche', but it is true. You're only 19 so you have no choice but to
think about your future. You have to get over this one. There are going to be other women and you don't want them signing this song to you, because
it'll make you look like a putz and you'll never be able to keep another woman for very long.
If it helps, the one thing I've learned is that love, or infactuation, doesn't care who you are, where you are, where you've been or what else
you're going through in life. It seems to be above all that. It doesn't care what you do for a living. Or her for that matter. It doesn't care
whether you can do anything about it at the time or not. If it wants you it's going to get you and you're going to have to deal with it. It's
either going to sink its claws into you or give you pair of wings so you can fly with it. It can be a heartless son of a bitch or it can be your best
friend. Sometimes it can be both wrapped up in one confusing package.
If it's any consolation, what you said in your post was impressive in that you wore your heart on your sleeve. You may be only 19, but it takes a
real man to do something like that. And whether you realize it or not, you started whatever kind of healing process you need by venting through your
post the way you did. You mentioned that when she picked up her things she talked to you like you were a stranger. It sounds to me like you're
handling this in a more mature way than she is simply because you're communicating directly and honestly.
Don't hold it against her though because not everyone is at the same place at the same time all the time, if you know what I mean. Again, love, or
infactuation, doesn't care where you both are at the time. If it wants you, it'll find you. Give her time. Hopefully she'll get to the point where
she can communicate as easily as you can. If you truely love her, or if you have this feeling in your gut that she's "The One", you'll wait for as
long as it takes.
You did make one mistake that I can see though. You went into all this thinking that she was your soul mate. That's knd of like the theory of love at
first sight to me I learned a long time ago that that animal doesn't exist in this zoo. Lust at first sight? Definately. Love at first sight? I
don't think so. Love is something that you have to work for and at. Is there such a thing as fate? I believe so, but even if fate presents itself,
you and her both have to do the leg work. If for any other reason to see if it is fate or not. It may just be a passing fancy, but you're never going
to know until you talk it through. You have to act on it and talk about it. Communicate. God only helps those who help themselves. He can't do it all
on his own and neither can we. It takes two to tango love.
There you go kid. Advice from a man who's been though some things and is still going through "things". I've been all over and it's been all over
me, so I just thought I'd share some of my insight to someone who asked for it. If you're still not over her, crank this one up to 15. It's helped
me in the past, maybe it can help you too.
(Studio version's better if you can find it)
Going to the business boards now. Gotta keep your head in the game.