posted on Oct, 8 2011 @ 03:15 AM
Originally posted by newcovenant
Originally posted by demonologist842012
reply to post by 0001391
This is not meant for someone to place themselves above someone else, however, there are differences between people and choosing the right person for
a meaningful relationship is getting more complicated each day.
This is true but to scapegoat an entire gender will not smooth the way or reveal any secrets. There are as many good females as there are good men. I
say this because there is someone for everyone. You live long enough and you see that.
I agree with your statement about making a generalization out of an entire gender, however, I came to different conclusions than you. I don't believe
in "soul mates" or people who are "meant" for each other. I used to. I wish I didn't because I wasted an awful lot of time with all of that.
There are two roles in a relationship. The worshiper and the worshipee. I have been at both ends of that stick. Basically, you have to decide which of
those roles can you live with. If you are the worshiper, you get to live in a state of blissful dreamlike reality, but the person will not have those
intense feelings for you. They kind of like you, and they really like how much you like them, but sometimes it annoys them. They will either settle
for you, or eventually leave you for someone they worship.
If you are the worshipee, you get to have this person fall all over themselves for you, build up you confidence, know that you don't have to worry
about the other person leaving the relationship. It will bother you that you do not have real feelings for this person, and will probably think of
that other person you used to date (and secretly still worship). You will eventually feel very smothered by the other person and leave them.
The whole concept of "in love" is one that has really cost me a lot in life. I was the dumb one that bought into that, and really tried to find my
"soul mate" or whatever you want to call it. I now realize that being "in love" is just allowing yourself to go a little crazy and get obsessive.
Such behavior should not be promoted in the way that it is, and celebrated to the highest on top of that. I believe in love, but "in love" is