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Originally posted by FissionSurplus
You're in a "damned if you do, damned if you don't" situation. If you let her go and pretend that you don't know anything, it will eat you up inside. If you confront her, you will have to admit that you broke a bond of trust by hacking into her facebook and emails.
Having been through something similar, with disastrous results, may I offer the following suggestion:
Tell her that it sounds really fun to go skating and you would like to go too. If she belly-aches about just wanting "girl time" with her cousin, or saying who will watch the baby, tell her that you'll get a sitter and you three should all go together. Put her into a corner this way, so if she makes a big deal about you going along, you have much to worry about.
If she insists on going alone without you, I would press her as to why. Most cheaters are quick to exclude their spouse from their extra-marital activities. If you're lucky, she'll go to the rink and see that this guy is a disgusting loser. If you're not lucky, she'll start up with this creep and you will need a great deal of counseling to get over the betrayal.
Bottom line: You two have been together since she was a young teenager. She missed out on dating and all of that by being with you. The root cause may be that she is bored and wants a little excitement. You can provide that for her with a little creativity without breaking the bank.
Originally posted by lilowl53
But ask yourself one thing...Are you guilty of doing this very same thing?