reply to post by MamaJ
Gabby, Do not allow your expectations of others get the best of you time and time again. She is young.
trust me..I have learned very well to not have any expectations from people...and she is 29 years old for crying out loud..that's plenty old
enough to have gained some wisdom.
My Grandmother once told me to keep my porch clean and not worry about whether or not the neighbor has hers clean. When you maintain your own porch it
will keep you busy with your own affairs and not worry about others.
..wise words..so why don't you stay out of this, and keep your own porch clean,and not worry about mine..?
I only say this not to hurt you but to show you that others will hurt you time and time again if you are consistent with holding them on a pedestal
again..you really don't understand me..I don't put people on a pedestal...but you give them advice to do it to themselves..which i think is very
unwise.. here is a quote from one of your posts below..
You HAVE got to think like this..... If you are on a date with a man...he is lucky. Plain and simple. You bring this, this, and that to the table.
He needs to prove himself worthy of ONE more date....can he do it? I AM WORTHY OF THE BEST so I am placing myself on a pedestal and any man that
wants a chance with me will have to come to me on MY level ....waaaaay up here. You are a princess!!
I thought that advice was way over the top..and while we should have value in ourselves and self worth, does the man not have value and self worth as
well.. can the man not say ..you are lucky I asked you out on a date, now come up to my level ..way up there?? Honestly I just about spewed my coffee
all over my monitor while reading that...and than you have the audacity to play psychologist with me, and tell me my expectations of people are my
With any relationship (or one that has just begun like with the OP) you can choose to walk away when your expectations are not met....you do not have
to sit in the expectation bowl of shiat and wallow in it.
Exactly what I have said in other posts..if you're not happy move on...so please don't try and teach me anything I already know.
There are exceptions to this though, because I'm sure there are a few women out there, maybe men as well..who don't have a choice..to move on due to
financial hardships..and no where to go. It isn't always possible when you have children to consider as well..to just move on..so those of you who
are in this type of situation ...and wish they could leave, my very deepest sympathies to you...and I understand you decision to stay.
And by all means...if you see me around doing the same thing....remind me. Peace and love to ya!!! xoxoxo
well..I can't promise I will...I really have no expectations of you.
Peace and love right back at ya