Originally posted by blocula
real women and real love died when women stopped wearing dresses and started acting like men

Damn straight. These days if you have a night out on the town you inevitably witness a few fights but more often than not it is now usually woman that are punching on, glassing each other, spitting, screaming obcenities and generally acting all hard and tough. If it wasn't so pathetic it would be a good laugh.

If you watch the boxing or UFC the audience is now 50/50 with the woman chearing the loudest when someone gets knocked unconcious.

They really are a lost, mixed up lot these days. What is it that they are actually trying to prove these days?

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What constitutes a 'real woman'? I think it's fair to say that the standards are rather lucid depending on the times.

As for me, I find it difficult at times to hold on to the core part of myself in this crazy world that would have me believe that no matter what I look like, how much I weigh, how big or small my boobs are, how straight my teeth are, or what color or length my hair is, I will never ever measure up. And why will I never measure up? Because there are billions of dollars to be made off of women who think they need to be perfect, perfect as in look like the celebrities who by the way can't even live up to their own photoshopped versions of themselves. It is on the surface though, difficult to assign where these feelings of self loathing come from when you are in the moment surrounded by supposed perfection. When everyone around is scrambling to look like a better carbon copy of their neighbor.

Lets see, I shave my legs, armpits, and whatever else I can reach, I enjoy looking pretty and applying makeup (part of the artist in me) but I have no problem going without either. I enjoy dressing sexy on a night out, and turning the occasional head (I know I will one day be old and wrinkly so I can't deny that I enjoy small attentions when they're passed my way) I sometimes obsess over my weight although I do try to catch myself and refrain. I LOVE sex and am not afraid or insecure about anything to do with sex.

Do I fall into the traps of low self esteem and insecurities? Yes of course. I'd have to walk around with my eyes shut (especially because I live in Vegas currently) to not fall under some sort of influence of feeling not sexy enough, or not thin enough, or not whatever enough...

However, I do try to always hold on to the things that are most important to me, as a woman.

Compassion
Understanding
Tolerance
Patience
Kindness
Charm
Intelligence
Wit
Humor
Sensual
Creativity (this is a HUGE one for me, I feel most at one with myself when I am creating, when I am overcoming the insecurities and ego enough to not care what anybody thinks or says about whatever it is I am creating, it is a personal thing for me, whether it be singing, writing, working with my hands, etc.)
Giving

There are more, but I do try to be the best mother and wife I can. I do not work right now, I have a ten month old beautiful baby boy who I absolutely adore. A husband who I love dearly. Has the road been easy so far? No definitely not. But I resolve to face the challenges head on, learning more about myself than I could have ever hoped.

I think I find it most difficult to be myself, always. To not cave under the pressure of others. To not hide my true nature. It is easy when you are in are in a relationship, especially for one who likes to please, to not sometimes try to be somebody else just to make the other person happy. I have found that if you stick to who you really are even if you doubt yourself, respect and love come easier from the other person.

Well I didn't mean to write a novel, just share some insights from my experience and my heart.

And whoever said that a lady isn't classy if she curses...I don't think you'd like me very much. Although, I do try not to do it excessively.

Real women haven't changed, the world has.

There are women that go with the flow, and others that chose their own path. We are not Rebels. We are Individuals, and should not be all held to one mold.

Blame society if you want, but times have changed. People change, and Life goes on. I am just happy that in this as well as in most of this world, women can choose to be Themselves.

By the way, my role models are Princess Diana, Mother Theresa, and of course, Claudia off Warehouse 13

There are plenty of us out there. And yes, even though there is Lady Gaga, and Miley Cyrus, Britney Spears... those aren't females that women idolize. Only young girls Most of us don't even care. And yet, those young girls will grow out of that phase, and grow into "real" women too. It's all environmental, and definitely male driven too. What men find attractive, women generally try to emulate. (Not saying Gaga is attractive... at all)

I consider myself lucky enough to have found a "real woman" to marry me. I have high, yet simple standards. My wife is considerate, compassionate, loyal, my best friend and a wonderful mother to our newborn daughter. She does love trashy reality shows though, haha. Ironically, all the shows she loves to watch are shows that portray trash-bag women.

Originally posted by snowen20

It inst an insult to want women to be respectable, beautiful, and nurturing people. This is the essence of the female persona in my opinion I guess. Even though they can still be empowered as they want to be without losing the other qualities that are so tied into being womanly.

snowen20 I couldn't agree with you more on this quote. Unfortunately, our societies push women into an either/or scenario. Either you are a loving nurturing stay at home mother, or you are a hard-nosed, money-grabbing work-a-holic hussy. The truth is so much more. A smart, intelligent, sensual woman has the ability to be a respectiable, beautiful and nurturing woman just as well as a modest, shy, unadorned woman does. Our Nature is to nurture our children and those we love, to cherish them and protect them. The rest should be the healthy development of our individual personalities instead of cookie cutter personas. BT

Originally posted by blocula
real women and real love died when women stopped wearing dresses and started acting like men

How sad I find it that you make that statement. It shows just how many factions of our society are crippled by their attitude concerning a person's appearance. Surely, in your evaluations, you take into consideration the person's actions of love, charity and service, their commitment to family and community into account. Surely, You are not in love with a fashion style and occupation choice.

Nothing in life is as cut and dried as that. In our modern society, clothing runs the gamut from one extreme to the other. And these days, the same could be said of men, they have started acting in some ways like women. If this works for them, their friends and family, how does your statement hold true? I mean no disrespect. I am sure you have a reason for your opinion. I just do not understand it. BT