posted on Jun, 20 2011 @ 01:35 AM
reply to post by NuroSlam
I can almost guarantee you that your daughter knows the majority of men in our society do not wear nail polish or carry Tinkerbell wallets. Gender
roles are recognized and accepted by children at a very young age. The fact that her interests as a 6 year old involve makeup, nail polish and hairdos
illustrate that fact. So it follows that she is fully aware that you, as a man, but more importantly as her dad, are indulging her somewhat by
"letting" her do your nails and makeup. I see that as a good thing!
But the thing that jumps out at me first is not the fact that you and your daughter share hairdo-ing, and nail polishing activities and then have no
compunctions about leaving the house all painted and made-up. What jumps out at me first are the wonderful positive things you are teaching her by
your actions. You are demonstrating to her that you love her enough to go against the grain of society for her, even with something as insignificant
as a little nail polish. Your actions are teaching her about unconditional love. By your example, she is learning how to love someone so much that
the sometimes pointless dictates of society become unimportant in the face of that love. You are showing her that sometimes it's okay to unselfishly
indulge the whims of someone you love, simply because, well, you love them! I bet she will grow up being able to tell you anything, because she will
have learned that you love her so much that she she has your unconditional love, not necessarily unconditional approval -- after all, there are bound
to be times when she makes bad choices or mistakes -- but she will always know that you will love her no matter what.
Also, and perhaps even more importantly, she is learning self-confidence from you. She sees how you react to those who stare disapprovingly at your
fuchsia fingernails or your Tinkerbell wallet. She is learning from you how to be comfortable in her own skin, and that snide comments or judgmental
looks from other people don't matter if you are okay with yourself. Later, she'll be more likely to be able to brush off any cruel or unkind words of
others (bullying anyone?) and will be proud of herself for who she is and what she believes in. She will have learned from you to base her own self
worth not solely on the opinions of others, but on what she thinks of herself.
With a dad like you teaching her by your loving example, she is going to grow up to be a fine and strong young woman. And as she continues to mature,
she will thank you over and over again for nurturing her and giving her such a solid foundation on which to stand. I lost my dad about two years ago,
but I still find myself thanking him nearly every single day for showing me how to navigate this often confusing world we live in simply by being the
man and the father he was.
I raise my glass to you, NuroSlam, for doing the same for your daughter simply by being the man and the father you are. Happy Father's Day to you!
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