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Originally posted by NuroSlam
So its father's day today and I have to work 18 hours. You do what you have to do to support your children. I try not to mince words and tend to speak my mind.
I'm a single father of a wonderfully bright 6 year old girl that I will give my life for if I need to. When shes here with me, I let her be a kid, something I don't see a lot of parents do any more. Like most little girls, she likes to dress up, the big gaudy jewellery, princess gowns etc. She also likes to play with make-up and nail polish. While I'm not to happy about the whole Disney indoctrination of girls, I am but one of two parents with limited time to instill in her the values that I hold dear.
From the age of four she has put make up on me, painted my nails, put horribly awful looking stuff in my hair with a true sense of glee. Its not uncommon for her to want to walk to the store to get a snack after this happens. Now, after two years I can honestly say I have never dreaded walking out the door like this, I don't care what people think of me one bit so I just roll with it. I do pay attention to the reactions of those around me though, and I find it very amusing. "Men" snicker and giggle like little school girls when I brandish my Tinkerbell wallet she gave me for fathers day 2 years ago. They look at me like I am out of my mind with 6 different colors of nail polish on. In fact I'm writing this because I made a post saying I got distracted while having my toenails painted to explain my forgetting to link to a site in an OP. The one reply was "I'm a man, that would never happen to me"
The women's reactions are exactly the opposite, they say how cute, how great of a dad I am that I would allow her to do these things and not worry about anyone else's actions. I have in fact scored a couple of dates!
So you think you are a real man, macho and ready to take on the world, but can you set all that aside for a precious little soul that you care and love?edit on 19-6-2011 by NuroSlam because: (no reason given)
Originally posted by sliceNodice
Your kid will become spoiled rotten, you know that right?A lesson that has been long forgotten in the west. Perhaps that is why these men think you shouldn't pander to your daughters every desire. It's one thing to love your daughter more than anything in the world, it's another thing to be blinded by love and make foolish decisions that will hurt your child dearly in the long run.
Eventually, your daughter will grow to expect these things from you. She will be astonished when you tell her you have a very important business meeting to attend that could cost you your job, and you are sorry you can't make her birthday. She will hate you for it, she will abuse you until you feel like **** and never forgive you. She will tell all her friends the story and conveniently leave out some details because she is a lying scumbag due to your bad parenting. She will struggle in her life because of her huge personality flaws and endure endless amounts of pain.
If you really love your daughter, you will stay focused, and make the right decision based on thought, and not emotion, like a real man.