posted on Mar, 7 2011 @ 05:21 PM
I see alot of threads/posts that accuse women of what they are or arent and what they should or shouldnt be, but what are men supposed to be like? And
why should it be about what they want in a woman? In the op you said that women in western society were egocentric, money minded, aggresive and bratty
(or something like that) but havent men always been that way? All the men I have ever known have.... Thats not to say I believe all men are, like you
seem to believe all women are, but for the most part yeah guys have massive ego's, will put their careers above all else, will use force or
manipulation to get what they want (esspecially where it comes to sex), and will throw a temper tantrum if the woman he is with knows more about any
given topic of conversation than he does.... Or maybe I just havent found the right "man" yet
You know the brave and couragous women who fought for the right for women to vote, who fought for women to have the right to earn and handle their own
money/income, for the right for womens independance, would be horrified to discover that in reality nothing much has changed. Sure we can vote, sure
we are now "allowed" to have our own bank account and assets in our name, but have things really gotten better for us? In my first real relationship
with a guy, I gave him everything and I mean everything, I put up with his tantrums, I did my best not to be smarter than him, I said yes when I
wanted to say no, I was finiancially independant and paid for my own contreception even paid half the bill when we went on "dates", but apparently I
didnt measure up, the minute I fell pregnant, all of a sudden I was a disgusting, horrid creature, trying to tie him down, that he regretted ever
meeting, I havent seen or heard from him since, and we werent teenagers either he was a full grown "man"....... Tell me, if I am immature and
superficial, and aggresive then what is he? Is this how men are supposed to act?
I am not a lesbian, but I hope like hell my daughter will be, because I dont ever want her to go through what I have had to go through in my life
because of men, what my mother has gone through (an abuse too disgusting to mention here), what one of my best freinds has been through..... Sure not
all guys are like this, but where are these supposed different guys huh? Where are they?
Anyway, I probably sound bitter and self-pitying, but Im not. I am happy with my life right now, I have a wonderfull child, a nice home, Im learning
to grow my own vegetables, and I finnally understand that I dont need to fit the standards "men" think I must fit in order to be happy and fufilled,
it will take me awhile to heal and be open to try dating again... But I am happy.
Women are not the problem in this world, Im sorry but we are not, the problem is that we cater to the powers that be, the problem is that we let them
dictate what "roles" men should play and what "roles" women should play, the problem is that we choose to see men as different from women, the
problem is that men want women to be different from them..... Girls just want to have fun