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Originally posted by harrytuttle
...you are love sick, but you'll get over it....
Originally posted by NewAgeMan
reply to post by mossme89
There is one more thing you might try with her - called "the bait and switch technique", whereby, when the time is right, and she seems a little bit receptive, you make a bold play and let her know 100% the degree to which she totally "rocks your world", BUT, then - you fain compelte indifference, like you don't care and are moving on, as if you've changed your mind about her for some strange reason (maybe another girl?, the pimple she sprouted?, it could be anything from her perspective, and a very mysterious turn of events), and then, turning your back on her so to speak, she if she takes the bait and starts to come after YOU!
Forgive us ladies, sometimes we have to do whatever is neccessary, even if it means a little bit of game playing.
Remember too that in spite of what they say, girls like the "bad guy", so you might try altering your persona from the awkward socially inept gangly type, to the carefree, cool ah "Fonzi" type dude (without the slicked back hair and putting your thums up and going "ehhhhhhhh" of course). Some new shoes, a new hair style, clothes, a new you which she never knew even existed, try that role on for size, plus trying on new ways of being is part of being a teen. Ever see the movie "Greese"? The girl was just so innocent, the guy (Travolta) so "bad ass".
And in the end, if none of that works, you're bound to pick up another one in the process and it will be this girl's loss in the end.
This is fun!
I remember when I was at school, I had a major crush on a girl that acted like she hated me, I felt crushed, could'nt stop thinking about her to the point I thought I was going insane myself. I was around 14 at the time and I know exactly what it feels like, its like a twisting pain in your stomach etc.
I put this down to hormones now. I found out as well from the person when I was older that she was just as besotted with me but was embarrased of what her friends would think.
Originally posted by XXXN3O
reply to post by mossme89
Ive read quite a few of your posts on the boards over the months.
You are an intelligent and well spoken person with quite a variety of interests.
Surely you know that there are 3 billion females on the planet to distract you from the misery you are putting yourself through thinking about this one girl?
Always remember that their is a fine line between love and hate. Right now it sounds like you are hating to love her, take a step back and think about it because you are looking through blurry emotional eyes. She wont be all you are cracking her up to be in your mind and its probably made worse that you messed up a little in the past.
Stuff like this is the good stuff because if you bear through it hurting you, it makes you a stronger and more confident person.
Originally posted by mossme89
Logically, i do know this but have a huge case of "oneitis".