Originally posted by lawlb0t
Its all mind over matter. Whether people want to admit it or not, its you who makes it all. And its their denial of their own power (will) that makes
To some degree I agree with you - on other levels I'd debate that.
While I do personally agree that the power of the individual does indeed come into play...and more around perhaps not so much the eradication of any
*symptomology* but rather the formation of personal resilience, of workable 'coping techniques' and methods with which the individual lives
and not only lives but flourishs
within those experiences.
Yes certainly that can and does require a bit of a shift in consciousness, direct involvement and exerting ones own personal power (call it force of
will or whatever) in regards to whatever the issue may be.
That said - for some the *starting point* shall we say isn't at all in line with other people. Meaning: Some people by the nature of what they
experience could in some way be seen as almost being a few steps behind the starting line that everyone else is lined up upon.
Be that starting-point shifted via chemical imbalance, physical, emotional, social, spiritual, trauma, upbringing, whatever...
Doesn't negate that the person can still triumph over whatever adversity they are dealt within their own hand of cards...just means perhaps the
personal investiment, empowerment and nouse required to *play* the cards they are dealt may require a bit more than others might.
I do agree that ultimately a persons experience boils down to them.
How they interpret, how they make sense of, how they live and breathe through it.
That however I am at pains to add does not in any way negate the very real struggle and pain - and time and learning
I do not however agree that simply because someone is say on *A* step of ones recovery they are in any way less than or weaker
than someone who
may be on step *B* or *C* or *X,Y,Z*
Recovery is a VERY personal journey...by the very nature that experiences are wholly personalised. Sometimes you need to go to step *B* then step *F*
then return to step *D* and so forth and so forth.
We ALL learn, we ALL live in our own unique ways...so too our own paths are unique...so really its not overly beneficial to judge someones path of
recovery or compare their path against our own or anyone elses.
To do so can merely increase the guilt, increase the stigma, within that person.
Something I also believe strongly is:
Noone can disempower us but ourselves. So too noone can empower us but ourselves.
BUT, others can help
or they can hinder that process through their own words and works towards and with us.
Theres an old saying: When we know better we do better.
Theres a fair amount of truth in that. Many people tend to do what they know, how they know it.
So I guess the challenge for us all is to firstly accept
where someone may be in their own lives without condemnation or beration
then to be present and offer whatever assistance we can.
Sure - we may be unable to walk a persons journey for them...but we can offer them water when they are thirsty, we can off them rest when they are
tired...most importantly we can offer them belief and hope when perhaps their own in themselves is failing.