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Originally posted by Benevolent Heretic
It's not finding out that Santa wasn't real that bothered me. It was finding out that my parents, whom I trusted 100% had been telling me this totally fabricated story, KNOWING it wasn't true - that bothered me... And it wasn't a moment of disillusionment. It lasted for years afterward, making me unsure of everything they told me.
I don't blame my parents or hold it against them. I just know I wouldn't want that for my child. I would want my child to know that if they wanted the truth about anything in life, they could (and should) come to ME. When I wanted to know about sex, I didn't ask my parents because I knew they would probably lie, so I went elsewhere. I never completely trusted my parents again. I wouldn't want that for my own child.
Originally posted by Bluebelle
Well what if you have say a 3 year old that comes up to you and asks what rape is. Or whats cancer. Will you tell the complete truth then?
And if you think about it, it wasnt just your parents feeding you this 'totally fabricated story'
Originally posted by nixie_nox
anyone who blames distrust on their parents because of a Santa Claus story has deeper issues that need to be addressed then their parents playing Santa.
Originally posted by Benevolent Heretic
I will tell them the truth, as much as will satisfy them. Of course, I'm not going to go into all the details, but there is a way to give them the information they can handle. Lying isn't necessary.
Why is 'totally fabricated story' in quotes? Are you implying that the story is true?
I saw a lot of things in my life and I always went to my parents to find out the truth about it. I remember the first time some kid told me to eat a bowl of #. I went right to my mom and asked her what it meant. And she told me. That's how I think it should be. The parents should be the ONE place that you know you're going to get the truth.
As I said, I don't blame my parents. But I would do things differently. I don't know why having a difference of opinion on this has to result in you saying that people have issues. It's just a personal preference. No need to resort to personal attacks.
This isn't about the parents "playing Santa". :shk: It's about the kid trusting that the parents tell the truth 100% of the time and finding out that they have lied.
Originally posted by Bluebelle
How do you know what amount of information will satisfy them?
If the child carried on questioning you would just give in and tell them the gory details?
I'd understand if it was a lie which kept you from doing something or anything which would ultimately have an impact on your life.
Not sure whether its on purpose or not, but you do come across as being quite emotional over the subject.
Being tramatized by some harmless childhood belief is worrying seeing as santa is the least traumatizing thing in the world compared to the stuff you realise when you're an adult.
Originally posted by Bluebelle
No I do comprehend what you're saying. But lying isnt black & white..
You dont seem to have a good experience of santa...
Originally posted by dolphinfan
As far as this business of "never lie to a child", give me a break.
"hey, what are you and Mom doing and why is your door locked"? You going to answer that truthfully?
"do we have any more of that candy?"