reply to post by oliveoil
I am a Christian, but I think I can speak for many people because... well, let me tell you a story.
For 14 years of my 33 years, I was married to a preacher. During this time, I was expected to support my husband and all of his decisions, even if I
didn't agree with him. As a woman, I was to be quiet because my opinion didn't matter. Also, every other denomination besides ours was going to
hell. One denomination just didn't take things serious enough, while another denomination was way too extreme. And the Catholics... they were just
the devil incarnate!
Very shortly after getting married, I was told that if I wore shorts, I was going to hell. If I wore pants, I was going to hell. If I wore anything
but dresses, I was going to hell. BUT, if my dresses were too short, or had slits that were too revealing, I was going to hell. If I wore makeup or
cut my hair or listened to anything other than just the very basic gospel music, I was going to hell. Even contemporary Christian music was a no no
because it was compromising with the "world" and was a sure road to hell. If I wore peace signs, I was going to hell. Granted, this was one of the
more extremist denominations, but here's my point...
If you believe in the Bible, and since you are Christian, I'm sure you do. You no doubt know that the Bible tells us not to judge. It says to
"judge not, lest ye be judged." Yet, what I have found is that most so called "Christians" are THE MOST judgmental people in existence. Now,
before anyone starts yelling at me, I'm not saying that ALL Christians are like this and I'm not saying that YOU are like that, because I don't
know you. TRUE Christians aren't like this. I have some Christian friends that are the most genuine, caring people I know and I think these people
are the real deal and there are many others who are the same, but I think hypocrites outnumber the true Christians.
I don't think it's the true Christians that give Christianity a bad name. It's the "holier than though" people who claim to be Christians, yet
spend their time picking other people apart that give Christians a bad name. Unfortunately, when most people think of "Christians," they think of
this type of people.
As for America being a Christian nation... I think it once was, in the beginning, but I don't see it that way now.
After 14 years, I divorced my preacher husband and got out of that mess. I no longer attend church, and what I have found is that I have a closer
relationship with God than I ever had before. While I was in church, it was preached and preached and preached that we are to have a personal
relationship with Jesus. It is IMPOSSIBLE to have a personal relationship with Jesus when you can't decide on what you believe because so many
people are trying to cram their own belief system down your throat.
This is why I think Christianity is frowned upon.
Edited for clarity.
[edit on 11/27/2009 by gemineye]