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Originally posted by unityemissions
reply to post by adigregorio
Just as you claim a "nice guy" is only putting up an act, I see hardcore narcissism in your attempts to come of as humble.
Originally posted by unityemissions
reply to post by adigregorio
Women tend to be more narcissistic then men...
Originally posted by unityemissions
reply to post by adigregorio
...So there's that, and also something about your writing style in general.
Originally posted by unityemissions
reply to post by adigregorio
I just got the feeling that I was talking to a woman with a sock account. My bad.
Originally posted by adigregorio
reply to post by unityemissions
See another as a human, not as their name or their gender--Man, this crap sounds like shlock, doesn't it? Though these are the words that best describe how I handle myself in the world. People like to be recognized for who they are, not what they are--geez there I go again...sorry!
Originally posted by riley
You did have a good point about age=wisdom though I am unsure why someone would assume you are a woman for bringing it up?
Originally posted by riley
That doesn't make much sense. Perhaps they just wanted to be certain you have a penis as your avatar may remind people of Jack Sparrow and..never mind. That is their business- no judgments here.
Originally posted by rileyThere are always exceptions to rules and sweeping stereotypes only serve to hinder the true nature of the individual. That is often the point of them.
Originally posted by adigregorio
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Stereotypes, I love em! They are designed so people can feel better about themselves, "At least I ain't one of those people."
Originally posted by oniongrass
Originally posted by adigregorio
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Stereotypes, I love em! They are designed so people can feel better about themselves, "At least I ain't one of those people."
Originally posted by adigregorio
Originally posted by oniongrass
Originally posted by adigregorio
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Stereotypes, I love em! They are designed so people can feel better about themselves, "At least I ain't one of those people."
Originally posted by oniongrass
You'll see that this idea did not originate with me. One of the links is www.womentowomen.com... but there are others.
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A common belief among traditional shamanic cultures — for example, Mayan women and the Cree women of Canada — is that women must enter menopause to access their shamanic and healing powers. Menstrual blood has the power to create life in the womb, so when women reach the age of retaining their “wise blood,” they cross the threshold into “wise womanhood” by keeping their wise blood within. At this point they become priestesses and healers — the spiritual leaders of their communities.
Wise women have earned this leadership role because women have greater “reproductive” success if, in middle age, we cease production of new children and focus on investing in our children’s children. This in turn impacts the population and success of the entire community.
It’s no wonder the Mayans and so many other cultures around the globe place older women at the center of their societies — it’s in their best interest to survive.
Originally posted by oniongrass
That's an assumption that I didn't get by reading it before. What about a gal who hasn't made up her mind one way or the other, or a gal who hasn't even thought about it, or a gal who hasn't even encountered you at all yet?
Originally posted by oniongrass
But even if one adds your assumption, what if there are ways to get a gal interested who thinks she isn't, as some "pickup artists" say? That's them talking not me -- I was never much for technique.
There is no one menopause
While we can all acknowledge that every woman, if she lives long enough, will experience an end to her periods, the symptoms, medical interventions and negative experiences of menopause are not at all universal phenomena.
In fact, the esteemed American Journal of Medicine published an article in 2005 entitled “A universal menopausal syndrome?” Guess what? They concluded that there was no evidence of such a syndrome! There were too many variables in reporting and too many worldwide clusters of different symptoms. While hot flashes were the most common symptom, they were not universally linked to other psychological or physical ones. Many other complaints such as depression, headaches, irritability and memory loss were found to be equally shared among both sexes, and others were felt to be more accurately portrayed as “aging” symptoms.
We are all different. In both Traditional Chinese Medicine and Ayurvedic medicine, the approach to menopause recognizes the individual. Similar symptom clusters (for example, hot flashes and night sweats, insomnia and anxiety) may arise in two women of entirely different constitutions for very different reasons. And both these ancient approaches, have always tailored treatment toward restoring balance to the individual, not to common symptoms.
Originally posted by unityemissions
reply to post by adigregorio
Just as you claim a "nice guy" is only putting up an act, I see hardcore narcissism in your attempts to come of as humble. Women tend to be more narcissistic then men. So there's that, and also something about your writing style in general. I just got the feeling that I was talking to a woman with a sock account. My bad.
Originally posted by oniongrass
After adigregorio's last response to me (just above) I'm starting to think the same way. For me it was also writing style, and more specifically the insistence that "no means no" which, when it comes to a woman's interest in a personal relationship, most men I know don't believe for a minute, in other words it depends. No sometimes means no and sometimes not and other context gives many clues, and there can be many second and third chances. (My main concern was whether the woman was already in a committed relationship. I respected that and didn't compete for someone who was more or less taken.)
What was the narcissism you spotted? I'm not very clueful about these things (married over 10 years, my game was even worse before) and am seeking some "guy to guy advice" here to advance my education.
Originally posted by Thurisaz
As soon as I saw the title, I was like
1st stop generalising...
Nice guys = boring and in denial. !!
Maybe nice guys think they are nice but they are actually in denial and are not nice guys...
2nd just be yourself... and don't categorise yourself as a 'nice guy'
I don't want nice... I want interesting and humorous... get it?
NICE ... I don't even buy nice things when they are sale...
I pay top dollar for the BEST
What the hell was that for? Am I supposed to be rude and stare at her chest?
A common aphorism is that "nice guys finish last."[3] The phrase is attributed to baseball manager Leo Durocher in 1939,[4] though Durocher was originally referring to the opposing team rather than to male/female relationship dynamics. The full quote is, "Take a look at them. They're all nice guys, but they'll finish last. Nice guys. Finish last."
Edrick do you ever refer to yourself a "nice guy"..?