posted on Sep, 22 2008 @ 07:41 PM
Jane, I'm sorry this happened to you. I think you did the right thing, on all counts -- the way you reacted, the not reporting of the crime.
I'll possibly take flak over this, but no worries. I think the way you at first "rolled with it" -- saying what you did about the water being
cool on a hot day -- was possibly the best thing to say in that it didn't project intense fear. Fear, and the display of it, I think can sometimes
I can understand why you didn't report it; I would guess nothing would come of it other than a hightened tension from the person who soaked you.
He DID assault and batter you; it WAS a crime, but what would the outcome be?
In your place, I would probably inform someone of the event with all the details I could muster... just in case there were any future events. I
would also likely find out what I could about the person, if I could do so serruptitiously. I'm not advising you do so if you don't have
resources/skills in acquiring that knowlege.
When we lived in the States, both of us carried concealed legally. That is my mindset, and it comes from a position of training and skills, and a
person who does carry a weapon concealed has a legal responsibility to try to mitigate the situation without "brandishing" a weapon, or at least in
the four states in which I carried concealed.
I can't help wondering how the situation might've been different, had you acquired the training and were carrying. I also can't help wondering
if you would now feel better or worse about the outcome.
I think you did the right thing, for what that's worth, and now you are more aware of some of the adverse variables in your neighborhood. I think
the young man was counting coup, and it sounds frightening. I would guess that he doesn't know where you live, by his "you don't belong here",
but I would think about shoaring up your home security if you haven't already. I don't want to plant any additional fears -- you had quite enough
for today. If the psychological effects stay with you and change you, and you are prepared mentally to take a life if your survival depends upon it,
it might change your sense of control, or loss of same to take firearms training. I put it that way as I've encontered well-meaning folks that
carried a firearm concealed who, I believe, considered the show of a weapon as a deterrant -- and it can be -- but didn't have the mindset to use the
weapon if necessary. I firmly believe that people that fit into that category shouldn't carry.
Thanks for sharing your event with us, and thanks for indulging my unsolicited advice. I don't mean this to sound as a juxtaposition to the poster
earlier who suggested you take training with the intent of carrying a gun concealed -- more of an expansion of the ramifications.
Y'take care. Your story touches a nerve in me that makes me feel..... I don't know..... protective? Concerned. Empathetic. Angry. If I can
offer any additional unsolicited advice, feel free to U2U.