posted on Sep, 22 2008 @ 11:54 PM
Originally posted by seejanerun
OK I got to thinking about what people were saying about if I don't report this and it happens to someone else it could be worse. I called the
seejanerun, I am so sorry this happened to you. I think you handled the situation admirably. I respect you for reporting this to the police, but I
disagree with those who say you had a responsibility to do so to protect possible future victims. You are in no way responsible for what someone else
might or might not do.
As a woman who often walks alone, even at night, and sometimes in borderline areas, I have become good at what someone else referred to as the
hundred-yard-stare. The other thing I do is that if I have to walk down a block that's just the other side of my comfort zone (which I think is
probably broader than yours, if gang graffiti bothered you -- see my avatar
) is to pull out my cell phone and make a call. Even if I can't get
through, I'll pretend to be on the phone. Aware of my surroundings but also connected to my comfort zone. If I'm somewhere that makes me really
uncomfortable, I'll dial 911 but not hit "send". I don't know if it's just the confidence boost that being connected with someone on my side
gives me, or if it's their fear that I might actually call the cops, but I've never had problems.
Again, you handled this situation well. There was nothing to gain from further physical confrontation; you're shaken but okay. The kid wanted to
shake you up, and let you know that he could see you didn't belong there, but he wasn't really out to make you a victim. He didn't take anything
from you or attempt real harm. Please understand that I'm not saying what he did was at all okay, just trying to point out that you were not seen as
victim material, but as out-of-place material.
Best wishes for getting over this experience quickly.