posted on Sep, 22 2008 @ 09:42 PM
First off I am glad that you are OK. You did the right thing by simply getting up, saying NO, and then walking away.
I have been in "bad" neighborhoods all over the globe. Don't take my comments the wrong way as I mean no disrespect. I simply wish to teach, but
you were in the wrong neighborhood, and as the assailant stated, you did not belong there. You noticed the gang graffiti and were concerned. The
second you were concerned... you did not belong. You stated that you were nervous, and that is what made you a target. It is all about attitude and
personal confidence. He said that you did not belong. He saw it in you. Not because he didn't recognize you, but because you did not fit.
Life in many places can be rough. Cultures develop to deal with these struggles and if you cant walk the walk, then it is best to walk another path.
In the Favellas of Rio de Janeiro they will sort you out in a matter of seconds and if you don't "belong" you will face deadly aggression within a
few minutes. Even the military police will not enter there without significant force, yet it is a place full of wonderful people full of life's
passions for those who dare to enter as friends. If you wish to survive in a rough neighborhood, and this thread is about survival, you must show
confidence, that you belong, for the second anyone perceives weakness, then the predators will approach.
The thing to keep in mind, is that it was only a water gun. Yes, not much fun and a bit humiliating, but not life threatening. It was a kid playing
mind games on an outsider. Shrug it off and take it as a life lesson learned. He wasn't very polite and neighborly, but he didn't escalate into
anything more sinister. He was most likely playing squirt gun games with his friends when you showed up, and he was playing at being tough in front of
his buddies. Kid stuff. You became a target of a game, because you were obviously different.
Pulling out a gun, as was suggested earlier, would of been the worst thing you could have done. That would have escalated the situation, and perhaps
resulted in more serious consequences. When faced with minor aggression, it is far better to calm things down peacefully, than to ad fuel to the
flame. Make a joke out of it. Be self depreciating while at the same time letting them know you are on the ball. "Gee, it must be raining" is far
better than saying "Back off A hole" Humor soothes the savage beast just as well as music.