Hi, everyone, just dropping in to keep up with you all and also pass on some good news. Lots
of good news, actually.
It's now getting easier to get in and out of bed, and I can stand up longer to cook, eat, wander around in the house, or type like I'm doing now. The
pain is not so bad these days. I'm really looking forward to being able to sit down normally, though. In a few days I can start with some tentative
sitting practice and by around Dec 18 I should be able to sit for longer periods.
My doc came around to visit me yesterday. He checked my surgical wound and said it's healing fine. Around the 18th I can drive the three miles to his
offices to get checked over again and hopefully get the all-clear. Meanwhile, he's arranging for a district nurse to drop by next Wednesday and remove
And today I got a double dose of good news. First of all, I got a registered letter from the Czech equivalent of the Dept of Social Security. I
receive no state benefits whatsoever while I'm caring for Dada as they don't yet have legislation for that, so back in April I applied for her to
receive an additional payment to help cover her care, with me identified as her carer and (in this case) legal representative.
This is how they get around the "carer gets nothing" problem. The law allows the carer to receive the payment, then apply it for the cared person's
benefit and also for any legally specified carer's related needs. IOW it's a defacto Carer's Benefit.
So anyway, over the past few months the Dept gathered all the needed medical documentation, etc etc, and these then went to the state-appointed doctor
to determine her level of disability. There are four levels, from slightly disabled up to totally disabled/dependent. These levels are determined by
considering ten criteria, such as degree of mobility, ability to dress one's self without help, cook, shop, handle money etc etc.
The higher (more severe) the level, the greater the benefit the state pays. I expected or hoped she'd be classified as Level III, which means severely
disabled/dependent, as that would be at least fair and give us enough to cover all the extra outlay I'd been paying for months and will have to in the
future as well.
To get Level III Dada needed to be classified as disabled/dependent under 6 or 7 of the 10 criteria. I figured she was at least at that level and
realistically, her condition is worse than that as I have to do everything for her except help her get in and out of bed. I even clean her teeth for
her, for example.
Well, the doctor decided she meets 9 of the 10 criteria: she's been assessed as "totally dependent". I am so relieved, because it's a true reflection
of where we are now. It also means my wife qualifies for Level IV disability support, which is the highest.
Social Security will back-pay us the 8 months of payments she is legally entitled to since April, then continue to pay monthly. Her assessment is
"permanently applicable", meaning no reviews will be needed as she's already on the maximum rate. IOW, she'll get that rate for life.
It is truly such a relief. Now I'll be able to afford to pay for more hours of visiting care by qualified carers, have lunches brought in for her, pay
for high-quality respite care for her when I'm worn out, and so on. Things to make life better. Up to now, I was paying for these kinds of things out
of our savings and it was starting to make a real dent. Now we'll manage much better and with less worries from my side of it.
And, if she eventually has to go into permanent residential care, the place caring for her can receive the payment to help cover her costs. That means
I can find a better place for her than we could otherwise afford. I hope I don't have to ever do that, but it's a weight off my mind to know the
option is now available if she needs it.
So, that was one great piece of news. The other is even better. This afternoon, my stepson called the hospital she's had to stay in while I'm
convalescing, and the doctor said Dada's doing well, the medications are helping – and so she can be released on Friday Dec 21.
Dada will be home for Christmas!!
The doctor will officially discharge her that Friday morning and also arrange for an ambulance to bring her home, because it's still iffy that I'll be
up to safely managing what's quite a long drive along winding, snowy or icy country roads.
Thank you so much to everyone for your support. There have been some really dark days lately and you've helped so much. Soon, my wife will be home
again and even though it will be hard at times, she's my love and this is where she belongs.
edit on 6/12/18 by JustMike because: ty pos