This started as a reply post in this
thread, I thought it would make a decent rant
though so I made this thread for it. A perspective not often expressed.
originally posted by: KarmasBiatch
I feel your energy and I feel you're a good and an honest human being. I don't say that often. I'm trying believe me. It's harder said than
done. Women are more emotional, and it's draining. I grew up literally feeling like Men had no emotional attachment, and I still to some extent feel
that is true. Whether or not it is, I grew up believing it, and seeing it around me. I've always felt more insignificant to Men, maybe it's the
world I grew up In. Physically I'm strong but emotionally.. It's been tough. Dying alone is how I view my end, which i'm fine with.
Wow. You don't remember me, do you? I guess that's not too surprising. We only talked for very long those half dozen times or so. I really
thought we were hitting it off with the deep conversations we were having. Just when I thought we were about to come together, that asshole guy
stepped in and started continually talking over me, telling ridiculous stories about how he could ride a dirt bike up a hill for a half mile while
doing a wheelie and such. And you bought it! I was so hurt.
I thought to myself, why is she leaving with that asshole? Can't she see that he's just telling her what she wants to hear? Why was my calm, quiet
confidence not enough? My obvious, unshrouded empathy? I would've thought a nice girl like that would appreciate such a thing, so why is she leaving
with that prick? Do I really have to be a total ass clown and step on other people just to leave here with a nice girl? No thanks! I can whoop a
guy's ass too, I just don't think it's very gentlemanly to brag about such things. Kinda denotes an insecurity about oneself, if you ask me. Yet
you left with this asshole egotistical guy, to my dismay.
Perhaps i'm too forgiving, too nice, too generous?
Personally I think these are admirable qualities. You have to know your limits though. There's a fine line between nice and doormat, and if you
never establish and adhere to recognizable boundaries, those boundaries will undoubtedly be crossed, even by guys who aspire to empathy like
Thank you. Sometimes I wish to hell Men could feel what Women go through, so they could understand the pain they endure from this kind of
thing, and understand them better. That will never happen obviously. Men and Women are different for a reason, but the feelings and pain are not the
I feel these things, but don't express them often. If the person doesn't take you out of context and think you're an asshole for saying so, then
they think you're weak for speaking out, and therefore not worth their time. They will run to the insecure fellow who overcompensates by projecting
a false aura of confidence to cover for his insecurity as quickly as they can manage.
Actually I think that's what we were talking about right before the douche nozzle stepped in and you allowed yourself to be led away by him. It sure
blew my mind, I can tell you that much. I thought, what was all this stuff we were talking about before, didn't that mean anything? Maybe he told
you I blow goats, three other people backed him up on it, and you believed them. Not the old TheBadCabbie blows goats routine again! I swear, you
blow one goat, they never let you hear the end of it!(I don't actually blow goats, I was just trying to be humorous here.)
I tried hardening myself as you have for a time, but that is not me. I've always been a romantic, expressive person, so if that means I wind up
spending lots of time alone because no one wants to date a man who's so honest and expressive, then so be it. At least I'll have the satisfaction
of knowing I am being true to myself, and acting the right way toward others. Apparently being an honest expressive man does mean that you will get
to spend lots of time alone, if my relationship experience has been any indicator.
I now have developed defense mechanisms that tend to sabotage any promising relationship, probably at least partly a result of the fear of intimacy I
have developed due to all the times I've been pooped on for daring to express myself. I'm working on it and aware of it, but I guess this might
mean you now think I'm an asshole too, because I don't have perfect control and sometimes hurt women's feelings because I haven't yet conquered
this mental challenge(and am foolish enough to admit it). I don't think that this makes me a victim, because I choose who I want to be and how I
want to act. The one thing in this world I can control is myself and how I choose to react(or better yet, respond) to life's challenges. I don't
consider myself a victim then, but it is a sad thing to see and experience.
I can't believe you don't remember me. Honestly, that hurts. What's that? You've got to go? Yes of course, I understand. See you around, I
I don't actually know you as far as I know, of course, I'm just trying to make a point. Those of us men who are not afraid to express themselves,
who express empathy for and expect empathy from their prospective lovers and other people, tend to lead extremely lonely lives. At least that's how
it's gone down for me.