a reply to: DonVoigt
I've been a stay at home mom my whole adult life.
My husband and I have been married for 20 years this October.
I had my daughter very young, I was 17.
Married my current husband when she was 4. He helped me raise her as if she were his own.
She's now 24.
I was excited to finally have some freedom to do whatever I wanted (even if that choice was to do absolutely nothing
But our daughter got pregnant young as well. Although we did everything in our power to prevent her from making the same mistakes I did when I was
She was 18 when the baby was born. The biological father was in prison.
We could tell immediately that she was not very maternal.
We've been taking care of him in every way from the beginning. Even before he was born, we were the ones preparing for his arrival.
After 3 years of her taking no responsibility for her own son, she finally admitted to us that she didn't feel a motherly connection to him and wanted
us to adopt him.
So that's what we did.
He calls us mommy and daddy, and calls her momma. Very strange indeed lol.
However she's got deep issues, and is in an abusive relationship and rarely comes around.
She never calls to even check on him.
My hope is she will one day wake up, but she's 24, I just don't see it happening anytime soon.
So here I am, at 41, doing the kid thing all over again.
And let me tell you, raising a child these days is so much more different than when I raised my daughter in the 90's and 00's.
I find myself a little resentful towards her because she is living her life carefree, and this was supposed to be my carefree time. But I guess my
purpose in this life was to raise children.
He's a good boy. He says that because my belly was broken (I had to have a hysterectomy at age 25) that God used his Mommas belly as a means to get
him to my husband and I.
My husband is a college graduate with a Bachelor's Degree in Hotel Sales, Marketing, and meeting management. Also he has an Associates in Travel
He doesn't even work in that industry at all. Nothing to with it whatsoever. LoL
Now he works as a chemical operator at a plant here in Charleston SC.
But we're still paying on his college loans. It's ridiculous.
We need more Trade Classes in our schools. Each individual is different, and not all want to attend a strict structured 4 year college with a hefty
price tag that you'll be paying for years and years after you receive your diploma.
I also have rheumatoid arthritis and Lupus, so I am very fortunate to be able to stay home.
If I had to list a talent, if I had my wish for a profession, it would be a writer. I would love to write a book that became a bestrong seller. I just
never know how or where to start.
Edit to add, I did have my own cleaning business way back in 2002 to 2005 but we moved so I had to end that business. Also I've worked in fast food,
telemarketing and other odds and ends that didn't require any real responsibility from me.
Anyway, that's my story.
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