a reply to: monkofmimir
First of all, being a man myself, having all the problems attending to that situation, and none the less realising that I am living in an age where a
combination of moral decay and the totally unrelated rise of the militant feminist have largely resulted in my becoming obselete, little more than an
anachronism wrapped in flesh, I have to point out that I think sending a woman unsolicited messages referring to rape at all is unseemly, and not at
all a gentlemanly thing to do.
Furthermore, there are some pretty obvious implications in such a message. They imply that the target of the message is such a hideous thing, that
not even a pervert who forces themselves on women in order to control them (which is the only true aim of rapists, no matter the outcome physically)
would touch them. It is tantamount to saying "Don't worry about this rape stuff. You are immune, by way of looking like the back end of a bus that has
been in a ten rig truck crash."
These messages suggest to me two things. First, that the senders are not intellectuals, and have not understood what rape is, how it happens, or what
the motivations of offenders are when they engage in the behaviour (physical characteristics are not nearly as important as some might assume, in
terms of victimology, unless the offender has a type, which usually has an origin with a female authority figure or absent authority figure, such as a
mother, older sister, or teacher for example). Second, that the senders are just not very nice people.
These messages are online bullying, but they are not in the least threats. They are childish, unseemly, and conduct unbecoming of gentlemen. Now, I
personally disagree with the woman who is the target of these messages, if she genuinely believes that men's issues have no place in common
discussion, because it is an inherently flawed approach to balancing the scale. Women SHOULD be treated with dignity, respect, and much better than
they have been historically speaking. However, men are not without pressures in their lives, and as the role of a man in wider society becomes more
nebulous and less easily identifiable, as men are having to seek for themselves a meaning which was once bestowed upon their lives by being born with
certain trouser contents, it is vital that those men who have trouble seeing their place in society, the slot into which they fit, be guided and
indeed nourished in their search.
I say this not simply because I am male myself, and struggle sometimes to see what use the world has for me, when everything I am is seen as somehow
outmoded, from my morals and principles, to my manner of communication. I say this because it is best for society if both women, and men, are able to
find themselves in roles in life, where they understand what they should be doing, why, and receive some nourishment beyond the salary they accrue,
from living their lives.
Equal opportunities is a phrase which has always irked me, because those who suggest that we have ever had them are fools with eyes which might as
well be sewn shut, for all that they are ever used to do anything of significance. However, we may be reaching a point where it is important to
remember that equality does not mean disenfranchising one generation of people of any gender, so that another can catch up. It means merely ensuring
that those who were previously disadvantaged, are no longer disadvantaged.
Those who sent these messages to this woman... They are no friend to menfolk, if their portrayal of their movement amounts to seedy, sideways
assaults on a ladies dignity, no matter how biased and unhelpful her position might be.