originally posted by: Bluesma
Not how it influences career, friendships, competition sports, other familial relations (besides mate), everyday exchanges with strangers.....there's
actually some interesting findings on these other areas.
Men and women are judged on their appearances in the media, men and women are used in the media to sell things. A competitive sportsman or woman, in
this shallow, appearance biased society, has to expect to be judged not just on their performance on the track or field, but on how they "look" out
their too. Is that fair? Much depends on which side of the fence you're on. Do you think Lynford Christie was unaware of his tackle flapping about
in all that lycra and how that might effect his marketability? David Beckham is a brilliant footballer, he made millions playing football, he has
made far more though from cashing in on his "image" and "lifestyle". Wayne Rooney on the other hand doesn't have that option. Beckham may get called
thick and vacuous, whether he is or not, but that is how he has chosen to earn his money, it is fair criticism, he put it out there, how he looks the
way he looks is what people want to know, not what he thinks or feels. Wayne Rooney's face has nothing to do with how he earns his money but he still
gets called ugly. It's still considered fair criticism because he is famous, although he didn't chose to be, his skill coupled with practice and
determination made that possible. No one cares what Rooney has to say about anything other than football.
Now a supermodel, like Kate Moss or Naomi Campbell, is a marketing device for women. Very expensive coat hangers if you will. No one is interested
in anything that they have to say either. They make their money in a highly competitive environment where standards of beauty are carefully
calculated and youth is a disposable currency. There are hundreds of thousands of girls more comely and appealing than either of those ladies, but
clothes don't hang on them quite so well...men don't really care about that #, only women for
and in competition
with other women care
We all have our crosses to bear, some people need help and scientific studies to help bear those crosses, like those with life impeding disabilities.
Being perceived as more attractive than your peers, when you are unable to choose your peers, can be difficult and isolating, but compared to some of
the challenges that life presents us with, it is easily overcome, particularly once you leave school and are able to exercise more choice in your
environment and peers. Youth is hard, whether you're pretty, plain or ugly, and haters are gonna hate no matter what. Studies that encourage a sense
of victimisation over something you have no control over, such as your bone structure and the arrangement of facial features, feed insecurity
certainly if you allow them to
, but personally, as a mature and informed human being, if someone is pointedly "mean" to me about something I
have no control over then I may wonder what else I have done to offend them, or what it is that is upsetting them to make them "pick" on that...if I
value them otherwise as a person I will seek to find out the "problem", if I don't, then no loss.
Beauty is entirely subjective, has little to do with perceived attractiveness and is therefore entirely unquantifiable. It is a quality, not a
quantity, and that is probably why the conversation has taken the turn it has, because for most the measure of true beauty is that which they can
cuddle up against on long, cold nights and all else is just two dimensional irrelevance. I think Charlize Theron is breath-takingly beautiful, my
brother thinks she is "meh", Isabella Rossellini is more his idea of perfect beauty, therefore how can anyone say that they are being mistreated or
penalised for being pretty or prettier than someone else, sure it happens, jealousy, envy, resentment, bitterness, dissatisfaction etc etc however can
be felt by everyone. Pretty girls are mean to ugly girls, ugly girls are mean to pretty girls...whatever...long and short...how important is it? Not
Perhaps instead of complaining about how the studies are not being highlighted, you highlight the particular studies that you felt were valid and
"serious" and discuss them. Or did you want someone to do that for you?