posted on Sep, 23 2015 @ 05:08 PM
I believe that most homosexuality is a choice and most were not "born that way". I say this based neither on science nor religion but on
personal experience. I find it unsettling that this view is deemed "controversial" and "unscientific". Usually when I share it, the responses are
more angry than calm. And when people get all emotional in defending their views, it casts doubt on how valid those views are.
My personal experience comes from sexual relationships I've had with two lesbians within the last 20 years. I`m a heterosexual male. Neither of the
women claimed to be bisexual, both insisted they were lesbian. When questioned about this, the first one looked puzzled and said "I don't know".
And the second one stopped being a lesbian after our relationship. I share this not to elicit jokes or brag, but simply to demonstrate, from personal
experiences, that the "I am a homosexual" - self-definition is not quite as fixed and solid as is generally claimed.
You see, when it comes to transgendered people, the LBGT-movement claims that "they are not born that way" and that ones gender is a fluid concept,
a "social construct" perhaps. But when it comes to homosexuals they claim "they are born that way and that it's something fixed and unchanging.
You see the contradiction in this? What if homosexuality is not fixed and that most people are not "born that way"?
Granted, in nature there seems to be a small percentage of humans as well as animals who are actually born with a disposition to desire the same sex.
But I`d suggest that their number is much smaller than generally stated. More like 0.1% instead of 3%-5% (some have even suggested that up to 25% of
the population are born homosexual).
The other reason I think that most homosexuality is a choice is because, as humans, we can subdue, change or manipulate our desires. Before marriage
my sexual desire was all over the place. After marriage I deliberately subdued it to a point where I felt no desire for other women whatsoever. Prior
to marriage I could also increase or decrease sexual and romantic desire for certain types of people at will. I realized that while we do have natural
inborn preferences, at least half of it is determined by ones own will, life experiences, upbringing and the information one has been fed from early
All in all, I remain skeptical of the LGBT-communities philosophy that "it's not a choice!" I view that in a similar way I see obese people blaming
genetics for their overweight rather than life-choices they make. I`d tend to say that homosexuality is something you DO, not necessarily something
you ARE for life (unless you are part of the 0.1%). I understand that homosexuals who have self-defined as such for a long time might strongly
disagree just like someone who has smoked all their life might find it inconceivable to quit. Don't get me wrong, I am not suggesting you should not
be homosexual - this is not a moral argument. I just think that saying "I prefer the same sex" is a more honest statement than "I was born this
The myth of our times is that homosexuality is not a choice and I`d much prefer that this dogma be examined in more detail and that it be acknowledged
that much or at least some of it actually is a choice as well as a consequence of childhood experiences.