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originally posted by: galadofwarthethird
a reply to: ladyvalkyrie
You know that pretty dam tempting...But should not that sort of stuff be left for other websites. I mean, this is a conspiracy site you know. Besides do you really want to tempt some of these people, this site is wacky crazy enough as it is, even if that got going it would be confusing as hell and go nowhere but in circles.
Wrong place wrong time sort of thing...Just saying, ya know. But ya! Cool chainsaw, and lady, and that's a very spiffy vogue looking goat you got there. I mean dam that goat hair is stylish.
originally posted by: Divin3F3nrus
This is a good thread. I thought I would just add a little bit of insight. I am a man. I am not the average man for my age. I am 21, I am married, I have a child and I am a successful tradesman. Most people my age are uninterested in anything but meaningless sex and drinking. I met my wife when I was 19. She was a single mother (divorced her husband of 3 years because he was physically abusive) with a job and a life of her own. I was an excited kid who was underemployed and sort of just walking through life. She moved in with me pretty soon into our relationship, and within a year I found myself married, now a father to the most beautiful little girl in the world and forced to step up and be a man. I got a full time job, went to school for welding and got a second job to make sure we culd make our bills.
Why did I have to work so much? Because she wanted to be a stay at home mom. All my life I had wanted the kind of family where I go to work all day and come home to a hot dinner, a kiss from my family and a clean house. I was taught growing up that I would have to do a lot of the housework and support my wife in whatever career she chose. I looked at these women who worked so much and refused to let a man help them and I became disgusted. I was once yelled at for holding a door open for a woman at the bank, because I was opressing her. I was merely being the man my father had raised me to be. When I met my wife the thing that I found most attractive was how she was with her daughter. Seeing her be the mother that she clearly was meant to be made me feel like I had to be the man I was meant to be, for her.
Jump a few months later when she quit her job and told me that someday she wanted to be a stay at home mom. I told her that I would do whatever it took to make her dream a reality. I started working 60+ hours a week while going to school so that she could stay at home and keep the house for me. I am more happy now than I have ever been. I still help with housework when I get the chance but she is the stereotypical housewife. She even makes me clothes (her mother was a seamstress and taught her how to work with cloth) and rubs my shoulders at the end of the day. We have both found the happiness that we needed in the arms of a 50's style marriage.
The femininity is there, we just have to find it. If my wife had wanted a career and not been a mother then she wouldnt have been the woman for me. I live for her, she lives for me. That was what I wanted in a marriage. She wears beuatiful dresses, swoons when I give her flowers, dances with me to our favorite music in our kitchen and cooks the best food I have ever had. She is a perfect, feminine woman, and I love her.
If there is a loss of femininity it is because of an error on both genders. Men nowadays dont like to work and dont support their families like they should. On the other side women feel like they have to do everything by themselves. If we just stepped up and did what we are supposed to do then women would have that choice again to be the feminine creatures that they are. Its when men walk out and leave them single, sont support them like they should and walk all over them that women are forced to get this thick skin and become these pseudo-women that we see today.
*as a side note. Feminists that insult my wife for being a stay at home mom and the way she lives with me do not help the situation. There are very few things in this world that upset me more than when somebody insults my wife for her lifestyle choice. If she chooses to clean the house, raise our daughter and let me slap her booty after a long day then so be it. (sorry for this rant section, I was just talking to my best friend's gf who is a feminazi and upset me)
originally posted by: ladyvalkyrie
But- waaaay more often do I know women who have been abandoned by guys. I have 2 kids by 2 guys, totally planned. I hit 30 and wanted kids before it was too late. I told both guys "I got this, but you can be involved as much as you want." Well guy 1 disappeared off the face of the earth 6 years ago. Guy 2 keeps in contact fairly regularly through e-mail, has bought a few things (diapers, toys, shoes) and has seen his son 3 times in a year. I am not complaining, it is what it is and I'm happy to have my children. And you're right, it's a hell of a lot easier to be 'alone' when you have children.
I agree that we waste way too many masculine specimens on stupid wars. But really "you all have been supporting it for ages? Ummm...I was born in 79 and I have never supported any war in my lifetime.
First of all: there, their, they're are 3 comepletely different words, learn how to use them.
Second of all: I feel for guys who get boned in a divorce. And I will be the first to admit that there are trifling b#ches out there. I've had lots of guy friends and there's been one or two who get a raw deal.
But- waaaay more often do I know women who have been abandoned by guys. I have 2 kids by 2 guys, totally planned. I hit 30 and wanted kids before it was too late. I told both guys "I got this, but you can be involved as much as you want." Well guy 1 disappeared off the face of the earth 6 years ago. Guy 2 keeps in contact fairly regularly through e-mail, has bought a few things (diapers, toys, shoes) and has seen his son 3 times in a year. I am not complaining, it is what it is and I'm happy to have my children. And you're right, it's a hell of a lot easier to be 'alone' when you have children.
So, let's look at the numbers shall we? 4 children, 4 dads. Any of them could have had any level of involvement that they so chose at any time and only ONE has CHOSEN to keep in touch and help a little and see his baby 3 times per year. You whine about men not being able to see their kids? More often than not it's THEIR CHOICE to never be around.
Woa, woa, woa. Being a single mom is a freakin' Scarlet Letter. Guys don't walk, they run the other way. On dating sites guys specifically put "I want kids of my own someday, but I don't want to be raising some other guy's kids. So if you have kids, don't bother contacting me."
PS If the dip sh*t lost his license and was sleeping in a car, that's HIS fault. Not the court, not the baby mama.
I'm sorry, now you're just being incoherent.
"Hate corrodes the vessel that carries it." I don't hate anyone. If you are seething with hate, maybe you should log off the internet and think on that for a while.
And yes, Oni (the buck with the awesome hair), is a pimp!
originally posted by: VforVendettea
a reply to: Realtruth
What is wrong with women earning more than men?
What is the ratio of single mothers to single fathers?
originally posted by: CranialSponge
a reply to: ladyvalkyrie
Dontcha know you're supposed to be wearing a skirt and high heels, batting your eyelids and looking all vulnerable-like whilst holding that chainsaw, darlin' ??
originally posted by: XxNightAngelusxX
What a load of...
Um... who defines femininity? You?
Sorry, I'm not completely disagreeing with you, but fragile, timid girls get on my freaking nerves. I'm a woman, btw, before anyone jumps the gun...
What's your definition of femininity, anyhow...?
Everything you described in the OP seems to be shared between both genders, and it seems like a list of things that a person isn't really capable of hiding. It seems to me like you're just fed up with women acting fake.