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“It’s no wonder that women of my generation did not cultivate our femininity. We were sexual, yes, but suppressed femininity, at school, at work, and in relationships. Not having developed that part of ourselves, when we became mothers we were hardly in a position to teach our daughters about it.”
Working full-time, making every decision, paying every bill, driving myself everywhere, booking tickets for holidays, lugging the Christmas tree in - it's all completely de-feminising.
My friend Sophie, 46, who runs her own design company and is a single mother to two boys aged nine and 11, agrees.
She has been single for six years, since her husband left her for another woman.
Blonde, attractive and kind, she hasn't been on a date since he walked out.
'I have absolutely no idea how to be a woman any more,' she says. 'Because I run my business, my home and make all the decisions about the boys, I feel totally unfeminine.
The more men experience women that act like men, we tend run the other way, or just give up on woman altogether. It’s not hard to figure out.
originally posted by: theantediluvian
The more men experience women that act like men, we tend run the other way, or just give up on woman altogether. It’s not hard to figure out.
I'd say that if you give up on women altogether you weren't that interested to start with.
Could it just be that a lot of (mostly conservative) men expect women to be like 1950's sitcom wives and therefore find themselves ill-prepared for reality?
originally posted by: misskat1
IMO, society hardens a women. We can not afford to be soft. We are required to work like any man, plus kids and house ect. We are expected to be "super women", to know everything and do everything, and it just isnt possible.
I have seen a lot of relationships where the man just expects everything from a women and gives little back. These women become hard.
Most women have a hard time going back to work when they have a 6 week old infant. And you have to harden yourself to leave a crying child in the arms of someone who is just taking care of your child for money and not love.
Im sure there are lots of other reasons, but this is how I became less feminine, soft and trusting.
originally posted by: misskat1
a reply to: Realtruth
I think its a matter of survival. We make a choice to survive.
originally posted by: frugal
It's about women having smarts and money. What would you need a man for if you have these things covered? They snore, burp, and fart in bed, say rude things, make demands, and do not cook or clean. Most widows who are college educated and have money and children are through with men.
originally posted by: theantediluvian
The more men experience women that act like men, we tend run the other way, or just give up on woman altogether. It’s not hard to figure out.
I'd say that if you give up on women altogether you weren't that interested to start with.
Could it just be that a lot of (mostly conservative) men expect women to be like 1950's sitcom wives and therefore find themselves ill-prepared for reality? Embrace women for who they are and stop trying to change them to suit BS ideals and hormones will do the rest.
I don't think you understand the OP or contect of the message.
Women are the number one initiators of divorce these days. I believe the percentages are as high as 75%, so men aren't the only ones giving up or running.
Men aren't trying to change women, in fact, most men have become more understanding and in many cases taken the nurturing roles of taking care of the children.
originally posted by: olaru12
It's been my experience that women have become more feminine in that they aren't afraid to express their sexuality much more tolerant of different lifestyles and no longer feel the need to act subservient to men.
It's the confidence that women show that frightens all the insecure men and thus they label them un feminine.
Call my GF unfeminine and she'll kick your ass!!
originally posted by: eManym
I agree with your statement concerning 75% of divorces are initiated by women. Money has a significant impact in these decisions.
If a woman finds a means to support herself then the current relationship as a homemaker and/or dependent of a man is no longer required. Apparently women loathe the role of homemaker and/or dependent.
Being dependent on another for survival, in many instances, brings an amount of uncertainty. This is a stressful and undesirable situation for the dependent.