originally posted by: Char-Lee
a reply to: Iamthatbish
All of you that think your right not to hear words outweigh my right to say them are imposing your morals on others.
The laws are old and will soon disappear, they are from a time when showing respect for each other was considered important to a society. Showing
respect to elders and the young and not exposing the young to every adult thought, word and picture. All old ideas the road ahead belongs to you.
You are so right.
People do have freedom of speech. And are pretty much free to dress as they will.
However, many people don't realize what their speech and dress say to others, and how rude it is in public to think that your speech/dress doesn't
affect others around you.
Screaming obscenities at your spouse in public may bring back quite traumatic experiences in the life of someone around you who witnessed their
parents abuse each other or subsequently abused them as a child.
When my children were young when I heard a potty mouth person, I'd discuss with my children the impression that person was giving to everyone around
I would never talk to the person, because it wasn't my place or right to do so.
But I could educate my children on how the people around them ARE silently judging and forming extremely negative impressions of the people
either using "bad" language or dressing in inappropriate ways (slutty/scary/or body parts exposed that should remain under underwear).
As I said I never ever would tell the "offender" the impression they were giving everyone around them. I would be taking my life in my hands
to do so, and I'm not their mother.
But I could silently form an opinion of them through their words and dress, and I could pass that opinion on to my children. While doing so I would
educate them on the impression these people make on others (be they correct or incorrect assumptions) and the impressions are made even if the person
is unaware or doesn't care.
As a result I never had a problem with the way my girls dressed. They always purchased and choose their own clothes as preteens and teens. I think
because I made them aware of the impression (true or false) that dressing slutty or scary makes on others.
I can also tell you my girls never used bad words in my presence. Out of my presence I heard one of them did for a short while as a young teen, and I
never punished her for it because I never heard it. But never, ever, would she even dream of swearing within my earshot. Not out of fear of what I
would say/do, but out of respect for me.
If you get mad at what I am saying because you do these things;
remember, even if the impression you give is false and not true about you at all,
it is still an extremely negative impression you are making on most people around you.
If you don't care, that's ok, not my business at all.