posted on Jun, 21 2014 @ 09:09 PM
a reply to: Frank_Rizzo
Coming from a family like this, I can only tell you to try giving her space. What my Dad had to do was he would sleep on the sofa in a downstairs
room; he stayed out of the bedroom. Didn't so much as even talk to my Mom. Eventually, he moved out, and I with him, as the house was being sold (he
made sure that he got something for the house though, as it's a 50/50 state here in MI).
My advice to you would be to find yourself an apartment that is close by, and slowly transition to living there. That way, your other daughter has
access to you (she will need you in her life), and you can move back in a moment's notice should your wife change her mind.
And, speaking as someone who suffered in a relationship for a while - I know what she's going through. She doesn't hate you, and wants to find a way
to word it so that you don't suffer for what she really needs. Because she's conflicted about what she needs, it just increases the stress on her to
tell you, and to act on it. Especially if she sees you as "a friend" or just another guy at this point - It's hard saying you don't like one of
your friends, especially to their face. To me, it sounds like a brain vs heart issue: One part is telling her logically, she is right where she needs
to be (family, kids, stable environment and a great husband), and the other part is advising her away (she's missing something, looking for something
else, it doesn't feel right).
I know you don't want to lose what you have, but think about this: Would you rather part and still see each other as mutual people, or part as bitter
enemies? I still talk with my ex's: neither of us have any interest in getting back together as a couple, but we don't hate each other
(well....mostly; I'm sure I'm hated somewhere in the world).