posted on May, 3 2014 @ 05:28 PM
I placed this topic as a social issue because it seemed to be the most appropriate in my opinion.
A few weeks ago I was at a party chatting to a female friend, who asked me if I was interested in another mutual female friend because she had seen we
get along/have laughs/enjoy each others company during group social events.
I replied something like "Not a chance, she's way too big for my liking" and was met with "Aw that's horrible, you can't say that!".
There followed an exchange of arguments where I explained that I am generally repulsed by fat people, and although I don't care how many sticky buns
someone wants to eat if they are happy, I could only be 'forced' into arousal with an obese person in a desert island shipwreck situation where I
had no other choice other than DIY.
The reaction surprised me - "How uncaring! So what if you were with a partner and a medical condition suddenly made her fat?"
My reply: "I would stick with her because it was not her fault and I presume I would already be in love with her as well, but if a partner became fat
for eating too much crap food and not burning the energy off, I would probably not want to hang around."
Friend: "Oh that's so shallow"
Me: "What, are there social rules now that we should be attracted to everyone?"
Friend: "No, but I think you are being unkind"
I was pretty gobsmacked to be honest. Has it really become the case that it is unacceptable for a person to not be attracted to someone for
I couldn't give a toss how fat someone is but if they are they will not be the object of my desires, what is wrong with that?
Does this make me some kind of thought/lust criminal in this politically correct world?
If someone has a medical condition causing obesity then I feel sympathy for them of course, but they are the minority, and I still would not want to
share a bed with them.
The girl in question DOES NOT have any medical condition, she just eats too much crap food and lives a sedentary lifestyle.
I eat loads of crappy high corn syrup/trans fat food but my work is very physical most days so I am not fat. I used to work a desk job but still I was
not fat as I ate less, intentionally - take in no more energy than you burn off.
It isn't rocket science (excluding metabolic/medical conditions) but then the majority of obese people have only themselves to blame...it is why I am
not attracted to fat people.
When did society become so sensitive that honest answers to questions about attraction are unacceptable if an individuals size is the reason why you
don't find them attractive? Do we have to start pretending now and finding other reasons?!
Is obesephobe going to be the new buzzword of the future?