reply to post by mysterioustranger
I greatly appreciate your kind words.
I've tried with that plea for a response enough.
And, I've had enough similar futile queries for a response, I'm just going to try and limit such queries even more than I usually do. It's not worth
the angst to wonder yet again if there will be a response or yet more being totally ignored. That's just no fun for someone so lifelong given to
wearing their heart on their sleeve as much as I have & tend to do.
There are a few mods who seem to understand and respect me above average. Typically even they, for some reason, tend to feel it wiser to ignore a
relatively high percentage of such queries, if not 95% of them, or more. That was a bit of a shock at first but now that I know it's the drill, it's
easier to expect it without quite as huge a disappointment. So, when the mod concerned yet again would ignore such a query, I've sometimes inquired of
a mod who seemed to have some respect and/or affection for me.
And, there's an understandable fairly strict . . . don't meddle in another mod's turf sort of rule. So I'm sure a lot of the being ignored has
something to do with that.
I haven't really wanted anyone to meddle . . . I've just wanted some INSIGHT about what I needed to do differently or better. LOL.
It's a big site. The mods are volunteers at a largely very thankless task full of opinions and feelings--many of the feelings and opinions negative on
the part of those they have to moderate. I can certainly understand that they can get tired frequently and run out of gas or even mere patience.
And I have 60+ years of KNOWING that I'm FAR from "one size fits all."
Maybe other members are just easier to . . . don't know how to put it . . . handle . . . somehow . . . in spite of my earnest efforts to be
supportive, kind, submissive etc.
I'll just have to continue to try and prayerfully guess what might have offended and become even more gracious and kind in the future after any
further slapdowns. Thankfully, they have gotten LESS over the years. LOL.
It's still frustrating that my resident dictionary has been as askew for 60+ years from the average one as it is . . . but that's a lifelong hazard
I've not been able to fix very well. It can take a lot of shared experience for me to understand all the common needful shared terms AS THE OTHER
PERSON CONSTRUES THEM, sufficiently to feel SUFFICIENTLY on the same page.
LOL. I'm closer to that with Springer. Yet I somehow was still
blindsided even there on the Stanton Friedman prepping thread.
In a way, it's a fascinating phenomena for a psychologist. If my emotions were less connected to it all, it would help. LOL.
I do appreciate your meaty and thoughtful answer. IN summary . . . I've gone that route about all I'm up to going there. If admin wants me to know
something, they are well gifted enough in communication to tell me. I'm about done with groveling and begging for feedback that never comes.
I do appreciate that S.O. and Springer both have, more than expected, been significantly more responsive than the average mod. That's extremely
commendable on such a large site, imho.
Thanks much for your thoughtful reply.
edit on 3/4/2014 by BO XIAN because: left stuff out forgetfully