reply to post by _BoneZ_
Thanks to you and Zaph for your kind responses.
The last specific case . . . I carefully and strictly was watchful of my tone in all the messages involved.
I spaced about 3-4 messages over as many weeks with one of them [the last one, IIRC] via the complaint form.
I don't know what else I could have done.
I don't know how I could have been more civil.
I don't know how I could have displayed more of a cooperative attitude seeking to problem solve.
It just hurt. I realize that's significantly my problem given my background.
And, I'm KEENLY aware that I often/usually just do not seem to think very conventionally in such matters much at all. So it's not uncommon for someone
to see their communication as clearly and obviously "South" and me to see it as obviously "Southwest" . . . so to speak. Or to put it another way, my
common sense is often not a close match with the majority's notions of common sense.
So I frequently have to do a reality check with others to bring my understanding in line with their's. It doesn't make either one of us bad or evil in
motive or anything else . . . it just requires some extra communication . . . sorry for that. It's been a burden of being me all my 60+ years.
It would even be OK if XYZ mod or mods just couldn't stomach me on a persistent basis . . . or had some sort of communication discouraging personality
clash or values clash. I could handle that if I just knew that THAT was what was hindering clarifying communications.
And I certainly realize y'all are volunteers etc. And I persistently try and affirm your tireless and too often thankless efforts hereon.
Nevertheless, when such disappointments SEEM to take on a persistent pattern . . . are we to just ignore that? How does that improve anything?
Are the members the only ones needing improvement?
I've persistently taken the attitude and tone that I'd like to know and understand the specifics of my missteps better in order to avoid further such.
I don't know how to be more submissive and cooperative about that.
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