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LadySkadi
He's 20 - Enabling him isn't helping him.
After a search turned up nothing, he asked my wife if she had seen the drugs. She said she knew nothing about them.
Is your wife afraid of him? Are you? I don't understand this part at all...
edit on 15-3-2014 by LadySkadi because: (no reason given)
benrl
Put in those terms, your already being way to lenient on him as is, give him a warning the loss of the drugs is getting off lite, next time its a report to his PO.
GiulXainx
If it is weed I don't mind it anymore. If it is anything else I oppose it. I know lsd, crack, heroine, and crank junkies. They can't ever get rid of that addiction.
Just keep throwing it away. If he acts up then CALL THE POLICE. Eventually they learn better methods of hiding it. But still.... shame on you for searching the sofa.
He's embarrassed enough already.
By consistently searching you will end up making him go insane.
It is one thing to call a bluff. It is another to take away his cards.
JohnPhoenix
benrl
Put in those terms, your already being way to lenient on him as is, give him a warning the loss of the drugs is getting off lite, next time its a report to his PO.
Gee. and here I thought I was heartless. No can do - that will land him back in jail which no one wants or needs.
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Also folks I didn't search the sofa. my wife came home from work and laid down on the sofa. The bag was sticking half way up between the sofa cushions.. She tells me it would have been real hard to miss anyway. Yeah.. he wasn't very smart or good at hiding the stuff.edit on 15-3-2014 by JohnPhoenix because: addition
Unity_99
You don't kick children to the street. Ever.
JohnPhoenix
Folks.. the drugs in question is an ounce of weed. i didnt want to mention this because of ATS's T&C but you guys need to know it's not some hard drug we are talking about.
I cannot kick him out for several reasons.
1) We need him where we can keep an eye on him.
2) He was running from trouble when he moved here at first, not having been allowed to speak to or see his mom in the past ten years..Thats a long story and one for another time but she don't want to lose her kid again so soon. She has known him again for only about a year so it's like a new beginning for them both.
3) the whole idea in my view of letting him stay here is to help him get over his problems. He doesn't have anywhere to go and if I or his mom kicks him out after her not seeing him for ten years, would cause all manner of resentment towards his mom.. we dont want that.
Oh yeah.. Folks stop telling me he's not a child at 20. He's a messed up kid living under my roof and rules. If he acts like a child I certainly am going to refer to him as a child. I dont care if he's 45 I'll still call him a child. The shoe fits.
edit on 15-3-2014 by JohnPhoenix because: addition
JohnPhoenix
One of the House Rules (my house, my rules) for him is to Not get into trouble with the law again, and not to bring illegal stuff into my house.