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originally posted by: Cinrad
Remember it isn't about what is going on in the victim's head but in the perpetrator's.
originally posted by: Anaana
a reply to: Bluesma
Clearly you can over analyse.
Making excuses for the behaviour of some men I suppose would depend upon your socio-economic circle and the values that they set the example of.
My son's first instinct, and that of his friends, upon seeing a vulnerable girl, is not to take advantage of her, but to see if she needs any help. The same applies to the vast majority of the men that I know.
originally posted by: Bluesma
I think it is a mistake to lie to girls and tell them all men are trustworthy and they can play with all of them however they want with no risk.
originally posted by: Anaana
originally posted by: Bluesma
I think it is a mistake to lie to girls and tell them all men are trustworthy and they can play with all of them however they want with no risk.
It would be a lie to teach boys that all girls/women are trustworthy too. I don't see what that has to do with the matter at hand - rape and whether the way a women dresses invites rape. You are still woefully failing to comprehend the difference between rape and having a drunken, misjudged fumble with your ex. Can women be stupid, and make stupid decisions? Yes, so can men. Do people with affluent lifestyles have greater recourse to use the law to their own advantage and maliciously? Definately. Is that representative of the majority of society? No.
In relation to the number of consensual acts of sex that take place, yes, rape represents a very small proportion of all sex acts.
originally posted by: tigertatzen
a reply to: Anaana
Thank you. I applaud your interaction with the poster who is making excuses for victim shaming. I myself am not responding because I have no desire to get post-banned. That is some of the most backward, despicable sh!t I have ever seen posted on ATS and I do not trust myself to reply.
originally posted by: Bluesma
I just feel we should do whatever we can to keep our kids from becoming victims.
originally posted by: geezlouise
a reply to: filthyphilanthropist
I would rather live in a world where we all get to walk around naked if we wanted to, knowing we are relatively safe doing it- than live in a world where we need to cover up and still fear being assaulted. That's my personal direction though. I'm tired of the shame of having a body and being human.
originally posted by: filthyphilanthropist
Apart from rape, clothing really affects how one is viewed in general. We should encourage both men and women to dress modestly because modesty is a sign of classiness.
originally posted by: paraphi
Rape is unacceptable. Using the "... she was dressed for it" excuse is no longer accepted in most civilised courts.
Education and precedent is reducing misogyny in the West, including the US.
originally posted by: geezlouise
a reply to: Tucket
Idk, I think you're the one who's showing ignorance.
And we've really got no excuse. Because there's that wealth of information at the ends of our fingertips, all of that knowledge just sitting there in a mountainous pile just waiting for you to sift through it and make sense of it all and find the answers... it's called google and the internet. But you don't want the answers. Do you?
originally posted by: Anaana
a reply to: Bluesma
You seem to be completely incapable of stepping out of your gray little area and appreciating that there is a whole wide swathe of black and white.
I don't believe that sex is a commodity, therefore I don't believe in teaching those values to either sex.
originally posted by: Anaana
In the majority of rapes, there is very little that the victim did that they hadn't done a hundred times before, they occurred because the victim was available and vulnerable, and no one was watching their back. Nothing that they did invited that kind of attention. Nothing other than being who they were, and where they were.
Not all men are like your sons, and the men that you know, unable to communicate their thoughts and full of pent up emotions and a sense of physical "power". I think that perhaps you should look at not judging all people by your own preferences.
originally posted by: Restricted
If you dress like a pig you should expect to be treated like one.
originally posted by: AugustusMasonicus
originally posted by: Restricted
If you dress like a pig you should expect to be treated like one.
So the expectation you have for someone dressed provocatively is rape?
originally posted by: Restricted
Did I say that? No.
If you're half naked though, you're going to be treated like you're half naked.