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originally posted by: geezlouise
that the problem with wearing short shorts and wearing revealing clothes is that there are rapists out there.
originally posted by: Bluesma
The way you dress and make yourself appear speaks to others. It tells of what you feel like today, what you are looking for. Why dress extremely provocatively if you are NOT in the mood for sex?
originally posted by: Bluesma
This is a very simple question that men can't help asking. Why put out an image of your intents and emotions that is false?
originally posted by: geezlouise
But in the same way that people "baby proof" their houses prior to a child entering the world?
originally posted by: Anaana
originally posted by: Bluesma
The way you dress and make yourself appear speaks to others. It tells of what you feel like today, what you are looking for. Why dress extremely provocatively if you are NOT in the mood for sex?
Because it is fashionable to do so?
originally posted by: Bluesma
This is a very simple question that men can't help asking. Why put out an image of your intents and emotions that is false?
It would depend upon the man, but I believe most men, assuming no mental defects, know that how a woman is dressed does not constitute consent.
You may express your consent through your mode of dress, but most young girls are just following fashion and trying to be attractive to whoever they want to be attractive to, or otherwise expressing themselves, or their desire to belong. Inviting attention is not consent to have sex.
think I have seen a very wide array of situations labelled "rape" throughout my life, and I first pointed out very clearly that there are differences.
originally posted by: Anaana
a reply to: Bluesma
I don't think that you understand the nature of rape if you are equating it with inter-personal relationships in general.
originally posted by: tigertatzen
And truly, though there are plenty of blatant cases of people "playing the victim" to get attention, considering rape to ever be one of them is preposterous. It is an easily proven crime. Physical evidence can be obtained and verified. There is no denying it when forced penetration occurs. And there is no justification for it, regardless of what the victim was wearing at the time. Rape is an opportunistic crime. It is about controlling, subverting another human being. Fashion has nothing to do with it. Sex actually has nothing to do with it either.
originally posted by: Anaana
a reply to: Bluesma
Again, you're drawing far too much from your own limited experience which is totally unrepresentative of rape. It is rape if it felt like rape. For those for whom it felt like rape, there is no quandary. Your experience did not. Many women have experiences like yours but it is not the same as you yourself have pointed out.
originally posted by: Bluesma
So what you are saying is- we should all just assume all rapes are real rapes, and give the girls a free pass on whatever they want to claim?
originally posted by: Anaana
originally posted by: Bluesma
So what you are saying is- we should all just assume all rapes are real rapes, and give the girls a free pass on whatever they want to claim?
Where do I say anything of the sort? Do they not have a legal process where you come from?
originally posted by: Edumakated
You dress like a hoe, you will get treated like one.
Im not saying that rape is ever justified, but if you go out in public looking like a two dollsr hooker, that is how you will be treated.
This goes in all walks of life. There is s reason for the saying "dress for success".