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originally posted by: InTheLight
a reply to: redmage
Yes...
originally posted by: InTheLight
a reply to: redmage
What is your definition and understanding of sexual consent?
originally posted by: InTheLight
a reply to: redmage
I cannot make an informed opinion without your input
originally posted by: InTheLight
by defining and explaining why you think it was rape and not betrayal.
originally posted by: InTheLight
a reply to: redmage
If a married man dates a woman without telling her he is married and she consents to sexual relations, and she later discovers that he is married, do you think that could be considered as rape?
originally posted by: InTheLight
these and other underlying societal, cultural, and psychological questions need to be addressed and discussed regarding the law, definitions of rape, and what is consent for a clear understanding for all, which is sorely lacking in this thread.
originally posted by: redmage
a reply to: InTheLight
For someone who claims to be passionate about the issue, I find it astounding that you have no personal opinion or definition of rape that you're willing to stand up for.
It's not a complicated question. Does my experience fit your definition of rape?
originally posted by: InTheLight
The same applies to you and I find it disappointing that you refuse to answer my question to help me understand which page you are on regarding your personal definition of rape.
originally posted by: InTheLight
Also, I am interested in understanding many issues not necessarily any one in particular, so, again, you are making assumptions.
Using the word rape to describe activities other than actual rape lessens the impact that such violation should have on us, and strays dangerously close to normalizing it.
Rape is a crossing of another’s sexual boundaries without their permission—or with their coerced permission. It is a sexualized trespassing and violation of their being. Its tools are various combinations of physical force, threat, coercion, abuse of authority, manipulation, and a capacity to shut off empathy and override conscience. Rape features aggression and lust in a darkly compelling embrace, being allowed to possess and run one, in contexts ranging from the mundane to the evil.
originally posted by: redmage
a reply to: InTheLight
We know, you're handy with links.
If only you could form and express your own original thoughts and ideas (instead of constantly relying on links to supply them for you) the discussion might have a chance at becoming something meaningful.
originally posted by: InTheLight
The same could be said for you in explaining your stance and/or defining rape and consent.
originally posted by: InTheLight
The links I post are informative and delve deep into rape culture as others perceive and live it.
originally posted by: InTheLight
Because your personal take and your definition of rape or consent may sway me to form a new opinion
originally posted by: InTheLight
yet you refuse to explain why you would consider it rape as opposed to betrayal.
originally posted by: InTheLight
If you truly wanted a meaningful exchange, you would have zeroed in on Robert's "giving consent through coersion" point and we could have, together, defined how this relates to your experience or my scenario, or other' experiences.
originally posted by: InTheLight
If we aren't interested in comparing personal experiences