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This is the article
I've omitted the title because I don't want to cause people unnecessary upset or offence. That isn't what this is about. But the article is basically a lady explaining why men have affairs. Obviously, there will be people on here who have been cheated on and this doesn't apply to. And in that case, don't sweat it, forget it happened, the other half was a jerk and you're better off without them so leave this thread and never look back. I definitely don't want to bring up bad memories, I don't want people getting angry and posting anything they'd regret. I want a nice, quiet and civil discussion on how you feel after reading this.
And I'd like to hear from all points of view from people who have read this. Men, women, single, married, in a relationship, straight, gay, whatever. I'd like to hear what you guys think.
Because I always assumed that if a guy cheated on me I'd know he didn't love me any more and I'd leave him until I got into a serious relationship. And now I think I'd be devastated. Like really, really upset. But if the points she outlines of women wanting material stuff to be happy and men physical and women stopping all of the prior 'fun' once they have a house and 2.5 kids does actually strike me as unfair. I know work tires you out and kids tire you out, but surely you should always make the effort to have time together. Like, at least once a week? Because you fell in love once and you want to keep that going, don't you?
I mean, I could be completely wrong. I always assumed me and my lad would do something special every month at least when we're married and have kids but I also can imagine I'll go mental when I have a baby and won't trust anyone to look after it so that'll stop. But when they get older...
Basically, I can see where she's coming from. Doesn't mean I agree with it, but I can understand why, when things get domestic, a man (or a woman) might get bored and actively seek something more fun, which ends in an affair. And that also kinda filled the void of understanding why, if someone says they love their partner, they'd cheat.
reply to post by Ayana
Ill get destroyed for these 3 comments but....
1) I think marriage is too hard nowadays with tech making it so easy to connect and get to know someone. Why did our parents do better at marriage than us? Because it was so hard to get to know someone outside of their bubble...I mean you cant use your secret text app through a landline phone. Technology has made it too easy to meet someone else.
2) I think we arent made to be married. Ive only met one woman to ever make me feel truly wonderful and it still didnt work somehow. I love her to death this day but we will never be together. There is too much damage to ever make it work and she did not a single thing wrong.
3) This is the one that will get my butt kicked....I think men often cheat for physical pleasure...they can turn off the emotional side and immediately go back to their woman. Women on the other hand I think seek a more emotional appeal when cheating...they want to be more involved and fantasize about their future life with that person.edit on 12-2-2014 by cosmicexplorer because: (no reason given)
reply to post by cosmicexplorer
I think you are totally right about men straying for physical reasons. This is really hard to admit, but my husband did. Because he wanted "to feel wanted". It's the hardest f@#$ing thing to recover from,