posted on Nov, 11 2013 @ 11:49 AM
Nobody has to get married because they are willing to sleep together. I see this ALL the time!! I cannot stress it enough. It's not a guilt thing
and you certainly don't have to tell them you love them because you think it's the right thing to do. They slept with you because they wanted to
not because they expected to get married in the morning.
Face your own feelings and make yourself happy.
You have to be happy before you can make somebody else happy.
If you're in a bad relationship, don't stay in it(see not getting married above). DO NOT move in with somebody until you're sure that you are
going to marry that person (if marriage is a consideration). Even if it takes 15 years! (I've seen so many people get rid of their stuff and their
apartment to move in with a partner only to have to nosedive in weeks. Then they have nothing to rebound to.
If you are a submissive type but don't want to be, don't look for a partner that is dominant because you will end up being in the same situation.
The inverse of this is also true.
For anyone to see actual change they need to be that change. I know it may sound stupid but telling yourself over and over that you're a bad-ass,
but it will eventually lead you to a different attitude. This is because our brain works on a system that brings our actions in line with our
thoughts. Tell yourself you are a loser and you'll be nothing more. Once you convince yourself, you won't have to convince anybody else.
Change the way you carry yourself. When you sit, make it straight up, when you walk make sure it's with your shoulders back and your chin up, when
you talk to people use words like "we" and "us". This includes yourself and the person you are communicating with (in a relationship setting).
Do some reading on body language and learn it. Pay attention to people that talk to you in a guarded stance (arms crossed, hands clasped, hands in
pockets) and pay attention to people's eyes (looking left, or right or up while talking). Both of these will give away when you're being lied to or
when they have come to then end of their interest in you or the conversation. Don't be afraid to use awkward pauses in speech because that makes
others fill the gap in conversation. This will innately give you insight to that person's behaviors. If you are having trouble reading a fast
talker that uses their hands a lot then look at their legs. A knee pointed directly at you will will let you know that you are holding a person's
Also stop going to bars. If you feel lonely and depressed there; don't go there. Do you really want a relationship with a person that spends their
free time at a bar?--Neither do the women you're looking for. But really picking women up in bars is for short term relationships, expect them to be
I have mixed feelings on dating sites. The women that are one them, are on them for a reason. The same reason that men are on them. To me it's
like a lower tier of looking.
For now, I'd tell you to sign yourself up for some skydiving and knock your panties off.