reply to post by boymonkey74
Nenothtu said, "go find you a wife at the grocery store. That is where you will find the ones who can cook.
That said, apparently bars and clubs are not the places to meet a future partner. They are meat markets. If you have 3 failed relationships and they
all came from bars and clubs, then this is a place you need to skip in the future, unless of course, you want another ex.
Yes, it gets very lonely being alone. I went 6 years without any sex at all before I married Nenothtu. I met him on ATS, while this is not a dating
site, you do know the minds of everyone here. No one makes any bones of their proclivities. You don't have a hard time finding which minds are like
and which are polar opposites.
You need to find somewhere that you can meet someone who is actually "right" for you. Not someone who wants to fix you, or just get laid, but
someone who is more like your other half. You need to find a place where people are actually themselves...
I recommend list making before deciding to meet someone. I did that, it worked well. I decided I would never be with anyone again, unless they filled
every single item on my list. I was happy to be alone if I did not find that person.
When making a list, one must be realistic. ie: no playboy bunnies, models, etc. besides, those types have no brain and are very high maintenance.
Average looks, lots of intelligence, and the personality type that suits your personality best, is what is realistic. I made a few exceptions to being
picky, since I don't appreciate fat or short... but hey! I got one who is thin and tall... with all the other qualities I wanted in a man!
I simply could not be happier as a result. Yes, it took years... and no, I did not have premarital sex..I think that ruins any serious relationship
because your not thinking with your brains anymore after that, and lets be honest, your wits are too important when choosing a life mate to throw out
the window in the middle of decision making.
I don't exactly know where to tell you to look, but if you have certain interests, you are very likely to meet the right person for you while you are
enjoying those things...
Just have patience.. good things come to those who wait. Just dont shut the door while you do!