OK, sorry but reading over some of these comments, and a few mentioned trauma sex abuse, etc., and Some reply with
Valuable than rubies, yea cuzz being a Commodity in a rape culture, yea Gee THAT helps,
Could we Get more Insensitive here,
A d this Crap about Heroic love,
No Wonder she's depressed, heck some of these comme ts deserve to be Lynched, seriously,
Heroic love, are you Serious? What husband can't Deal with the TRUTH that his wife yes, feels Pain and Pain that is Highly justified, so she must
Fake and put a smile on her face because GOD forbid of ole hubby or family have to deal with TRUTH here???
What a crock of bull.
A LOVING family is Patient and Walks WITH someone in pain, not saying that her family doesn't but,
It's not HER responsibility to just SMILE through Pain and Trauma like that Caused by some CRIMINAL assjerk,
Jesus you treat rape like its some simple Slap. I'd like to Slap some of you, seriously. (maybe ill be banned for this, oh well, SHE deserves some
TRUTH, not stoic garbage that is just FEEDING this LIE, that Aids the Rape culture rather than Support for a Victim OF that rape culture,
Got news for you folks. You don't just "get over" rape, or sexual abuse
It is a LIFELONG walk, and if that Makes many uncomfortable, well then Maybe you need an Education.
maybe the problem here is everyone around her just expects her to be All ruby commodity like, all smiling and Perfectly fine when inside she's
screaming and there's no justice or relief,
Gee Ya think??? Oh yea she's just Supposed to bounce back and be all Doris Day like and willing right guys? And boy oh boy she had just Better not
be angry (because THAT right is Only for Humans, women need not apply, yea WE get the subtle hints folks) and she had better put that smile on and be
all sweet as apple pie and. Ever let Anyone around her knw that she's a real Human Being
And not some advertising character doll, because oh my that might Upset the Delusions now huh?
The truth is, what she is expected to do as not to make OTHERS feel uncomfortable, is downright
Heroic love my ass,
Yea that's probably why she said, she cries in the bathroom as its SOME kind of Control
That right there, says A lot,
Her need to regain some CONTROL out if the hands of Others,
Which is very NORMAL for Anyone who's ever been VIOLATED intimate space by some JERK in the VIOLENCE of Rape or similar VIOLENT crime.
And to pop off with, oh you're worth more than rubies, what she's a Commodity too?
How DARE you?
Do people Ever think?
Smylee I don't know you or your situation but I can tell you, as a Survivor, that apart from the Meds (that's an added issue) that What you are
feeling and struggling with is Normal and what it sounds like, is that Maybe, you Should stop smiling,
And be truthful about what you are feeling and that your family, the Adults that is, need to Acceot that Yes, recovery is a LONG PROCESS, and when you
LOVE SOMEONE, you LOVE them in Truth, not just
How much they can STUFF what they are feeling so that you can go on like la to da, well how Convenient for them eh,
NO it's not their fault, got that get that, but when you Sign up for relationships, you Sign up for ALL of it, good AND bad, WOUNDS AND ALL,
And if one is having to PRETEND for some b.s. Disney fake world that hey all is OK when Realy they are DYING Inside
Then you've got some REAL problems
And you can only DENY those for so long.
Maybe one if the Reasons for depression is the whole LYING thing and the Pretense, to appease others who
Might be, just a tad on the SELFISH SIDE. Just Maybe???
No Smylee girl, what you need seriously, is One to be HONEST with yourself, and with your Family, child yea that's understandable but even then, you
can say mommy under the weather a bit today but I love you and so forth,
But with our Spouse, needing a feeling of Control, that MIGHT BE some of your Triggers right there,
Maybe it's NOT just the MEDS, maybe there is clearly some other things going in and Maybe your Brai is telling you
IM TIRED IF FAKING HAPPINESS TO MAKE OTHERS HAPPY.
Forget all that Polly Anna patriarchal bunk...it's NOT Truth, it KILLS women, literally,
And Get with a Support group that Understands and Supports YOU
Not some ROLE you are trying to play.
I'm sorry mods but when it's IN the comments that there is other trauma conducive to depression (ESP sexual Violence) and the there's this added
Damn straight, I'm going to jump in it.
Smylee it's Normal, to feel anger, rage, sadness, all of it, loss if control for Years, anyone who tells you different, is Full of it,
You didn't OWE them anything, you Owe YOURSELF
To get well, as humanly possible, to be healed as much as you can, to GET JUSTICE by golly and to be Able
To Have your feelings, good and bad, WITHOUT people GUILTING you because they feel uncomfortable
And Never having to Apologize for them, Ever.
edit on 28-5-2013 by ThreeBears because: Typos
edit on 28-5-2013 by ThreeBears