posted on May, 8 2013 @ 12:25 AM
I expect that most will say "love" but I am beginning to believe that patience is the highest good and "love" arises from it.
I consider "good" to be that which promotes unity, freedom, and happiness among everyone.
I consider "bad" to be that which promotes isolation, control, and suffering among everyone.
I am not telling everyone to accept this. I am just sharing my own definitions of these words based on my own preferences (intentions and desires).
I created a scale of "goodness" in order to explain:
Scale of goodness (one leads to the other):
Patience > Acceptance > Compassion > Giving (Helping)
Scale of wrongfulness (one leads to the other):
Impatience > Control > Apathy > Taking (Abuse)
-Scale of Goodness-
Patience leads to Acceptance.
It takes patience in order to have acceptance towards a person or a situation because impatiences will lead to the impulse to control or become
Acceptance leads to Compassion.
Having acceptance towards a person will allow one to understand the person's thoughts and emotions more (Compassion). Having acceptance towards a
situation, rather than quickly trying to change it, will allow one to have a clarity of thought and to gain more perspective to make a decision.
Compassion leads to Giving.
When a person understands that other people have their own fears, beliefs, and struggles in life (compassion) that will influence a person to do
something about it. Pain hurts and sharing in another person's pain also hurts which will then lead to giving (either advice or something material)
in order to help the person to be more successful and happy in life.
-Scale of Wrongfulness-
Impatience leads to Control
Feeling impatient will lead to a strong impulse to act. Acting from impatience can cloud a person's judgement. It can also cause one to become
angry faster and it is more likely to turn into aggression (control) than with having patience.
Control leads to Apathy
When one is controlling, the only thing that matters is if everything is being controlled in the way that the person wants. The only thing that
matters is if everyone is "obeying" their rules. The feelings, thoughts, opinions, experiences of pain and suffering becomes ignored because more
effort is going into controlling out of impatience rather than the acceptance in order to understand which comes with patience. This leads to apathy
(not caring or not even noticing the mental and emotional state of others - compassion)
Apathy leads to Taking
When there is apathy, then everyone's emotions, thoughts, and opinions are not considered or not noticed. In this mindset, other people are just
"things" where one can take what they want for them.
It makes sense even when it is seen in a romantic couple.
How can one claim to love someone if they do not have acceptance for who they are?
How can one come to understand a person and gain acceptance of them without patience?
What are your thoughts on this?