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Originally posted by Twix404
reply to post by rimjaja
My question, and this is a legitimate variable in why perhaps he is becoming this way:
Does he have an xbox, and specifically do you let him play online?
Originally posted by kdog1982
Well,at the age,yes it can be miserable.
You gave him to much rope,time to reel it in for a reality check.
But if he is being that disrespectable,you can take privileges away.
Does he have a phone or any games and such?
Extra-curricular activities?
Take them away away till he understands he can not behave that way.
Explain that to them what their job is to help the family and that everything they have is a privilege.
It has to be earned.
Worked for my 14 year old daughter when we took her phone and tv away.
She had to earn it back.
It's tough,but that is what parenting is about.
It will work out in the long run.edit on 20-3-2013 by kdog1982 because: (no reason given)
try to use reason and logic when asking to do somthing....like how small amount of time it really is to do those things.
The phone is what we take away now for punishment. That is the only "currency" on his radar that matters to him. Hiss last extra curricular activity is tae kwon do, and I'm stuck paying for it for another year and I figure its a good activity for him since he has to listen to other adults teaching about respect. He doesn't care about anything else, and the second he gets what he wants out of you-he reverts to arsehatdome.
Originally posted by DankKing420
reply to post by kdog1982
structure yes but you do need to attempt to reason with him. dont get me wrong my parents cracked down when i was bad to the point where i sat at the house with absolutely nothing to do with weeks on end.
but the ultimate goal should be to attempt to reason and find common ground so he in his own mind comes to the conclusion that it would just make it his life easier to do those simple things.
until he comes to that conclusion in his own mind by his own logic there will only be resentment and more fightingedit on 20-3-2013 by DankKing420 because: (no reason given)
Originally posted by rimjaja
reply to post by kdog1982
He says he shouldn't have any rules because none of his friends parents care what their kids do.
He has gone from an A/B student to a C/D student this year. His guidance councillor says that he is not handing in homework assignments.
We set aside homework time every day but he lies and says he doesn't have any. I even leave the office an hour early every day so I can pick up kids and make sure I'm there to help them with homework.