posted on Mar, 2 2013 @ 06:29 PM
YES, ABSOLUTELY, this permissible. Anyone out there who believes that a beloved close mate should be denied sex with another is foolish. When
suggested that another potiential mate is attractive and they desire intimacy with them, agree and encourage it. If one feels horrified, disgusted and
betrayed, take some time, gain composure and agree to it. It is who you love and what is in their character. They will eventually anyways because it
is their nature and you can't help that.
Meanwhile, while they are believing you are so benevolent, begin cleaning out your bank accounts, changing locks, passwords, retaining an attorney
for a restraining order, and if married, filing for divorce and building a case for sole custody of children (if any). But this strategic withdrawal
must be done as quietly as possible. Then ask to meet the person, be very polite and accepting, and serve them legal papers.
The reality is they are likely attracted to some trashy person that may carrying STDs. Your health is more important than their attractions. Also,
such wonderfully bonded relationships that incur such a suggestion involve finances and legal risk. Somewhere within this equation would be the
correlation with someone being arrested at some point. You don't know what that other person is into, and because they are having sex with them, you
are implicated. If children are involved, they need their parents to be a faithful, stable couple, and not with some extra sex partners in their
lives, either directly or indirectly. Fidelity is important for those practical reasons, and regardless of how much you may love them, your welfare
(and your children if any), comes first.
Thus, lead them down the garden path of acceptance and then suddenly, when you are at a safe distance from the drama, dump them. When you do, tell
them you are doing this because you are not being selfish. Their heart (or enough of it) is not with you, but with the other person and that is where
they need to be. They go where their heart leads them. Of course when you do this, they will say that you are being jealous, and they must be
instructed that this is not jealousy. Jealousy is fighting to keep them there with you, and not pushing them to go with someone else. Thus, they must
be highly influenced by anything you can do to get them to where their heart belongs and leads them, including keeping no food for them in the fridge,
withholding sex, sleeping in another bed or on the couch, restraining orders, divorce papers, changing your phone number and the locks on your home.
Really, someday, when they are with someone else, they will be glad you did because to ever suggest such a thing, they will realize they never loved