posted on Feb, 1 2013 @ 02:24 PM
reply to post by Deetermined
You are presuming an environment of 1 unhealthy person and X other healthy people rather than an environment of X unhealthy people all in different
ways. When the "help" is actually part of the sick dynamic (and not wanted or asked for), who are you suggesting they make themselves trustworthy
There are people who will never hurt any partner intentionally, and will spend most of their life alone and be a "loser". Others who will never NOT
hurt one intentionally, and will be married for life and a pillar of the community. Social Functionality has no bearing on the healthiness of an
individual, nor the harm they may or may not be bringing to those around them hidden from view and unable to be expressed.
Often in a family the "drug abuser" is the canary in the coal mine. When you have 3/3 come out of your coal mine... serious questions need to be asked
about the mine management.
"I have no choice"... of course it's the drugs talking. And the panic, and pain, and fear, and anger, and uncertainty, etc. It doesn't make the
behavior "right", but you don't just look at them and say "Don't do that". Again it comes back to when it's *you*... what is going through your head
for your "poor" behavior? What was doing the talking? Did you have a choice or did you feel like it was your only viable option? If you really felt
you had a choice why did you pick the "poor" one?
That's the entire point of stop treating the person like they are "healthy" and actually work *with* them the same way you don't argue with a person
who has the flu about their symptoms. You understand them so you can treat the real issue, not the surface issues. Stealing from your family is a
surface issue pointing to a deeper disease either in the person or the family. Usually both.
edit on 1-2-2013 by ErgoTheConclusion because: (no