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Originally posted by zedVSzardoz
reply to post by steppenwolf86
have you ever even seen or known a burnt out, tired, and jaded person who had to deal with a family member who is a junkie?
The OP is also a victim to the situation you know. This is his right and it is also healthy. He is going to feel this way no matter what after all the grief he has probably been through. Writing this letter probably let him vent all those things he felt instead of bottling them up and exploding one day.
You have to deal with your feelings, not pretend you are "nicer than that"....7
Junkies play on your every emotion and make you lose a little bit of faith in people with every instance of abuse form them and disrespect in the endless stream of such abuses until they die.
That F´s you up pretty bad. The OP needs support, not scolding for not being Mr.PC perfect....
Do you even know a junkie?
edit on 1-2-2013 by zedVSzardoz because: (no reason given)
Originally posted by GmoS719
Originally posted by Destinyone
reply to post by GmoS719
There is the love to let them go. To bottom out, so they can start to pick themselves up and rebuild their lives.
Or, would you let them into your life. To steal from you to feed their addictions. I had to cut off a Sister who stole everything she could get her hands on from my home. Even to breaking in while I was at work. I don't call that love on her part.
Maybe, when those 3 sons realize that their Parents love them enough to say enough is enough....just maybe then, they'll see how destructive their *chosen* lifestyles have been. You do an addict no favors by being codependent with them. That kind of love kills.
Who said anything about being codependent?
A drug addict can't get better on their own.
Left alone to make the right choice they will always use the drugs.
Kicking them to the curb is not the answer.
He didn't give up on his drug addicted wife, why give up on her children?
Originally posted by openyourmind1262
reply to post by Evil_Santa
Look as if I that guilt is still in full form with you, as you can allmost wipe it off the computer screen as we read your post's. Like it's pouring out of every pore. Seems as if your parents spent years & years and tons of money to get you to the respectable place you say you are now. And it seens as if that's your biggest beef with this thread is " parents" are to do for their offspring no matter what. Yours may have, these two are not.
Your parents may be proud of you, we certainly arent proud of these. Glad it worked out for you & glad your parents are proud, I really sincerly mean that. Each situation is different, as much as it's the same it 'not. Stop comparing your bad decisions of your life, with the piss poor decisions my step sons are making. They may get the help they need when rock bottom is achieved, or they may die in this life they created for themselves. Either way, our time of enableing it is over.edit on 1-2-2013 by openyourmind1262 because: (no reason given)
Originally posted by ridin2live
...public executions in the USA! It would stop a lot of our problems.