Originally posted by openyourmind1262
reply to post by Evil_Santa
Again, she did not do drugs. She is a college graduate. For the record. there's I's because it's MY RANT. And understand something real clear. I
don't rescue people nor do I have a complex about it. I help those who WANT to help them selves. It would be no different that of it was my two blood
children. I /we would still take this stance.
There comes a point to where enough is enough, a breaking point. We have reached ours. And IMHO we all have a breaking point. We will not
participate any longer. It bad enough you go on here to simply vent, vent about a real problem with lives at stake. And be lambasted as not doing
eoungh. No, we've done more than enough. No more enableing on our parts. If you've never been faced with putting your kids out of your life because
of these problems, you have no idea the amount of guilt you have to get over. I would not wish problems like this on my own worse enemy.
Where - in any of my posts did I make the statement that she did drugs? My statement was that she choose to stay with, and have children, with
someone who does drugs. She neglected her responsibility as a mother to choose a responsible individual to have children with.
Children are the gift we leave to the world when we die.
Yup, you were enabling them. Did you know better at the time? Most likely not, it's something that rescuers do subconsciously.
Do you know about the emptiness a person feels inside that drives them towards abusive behaviors in an effort to fill that void with something that
gives them a meaning to get up and live every day? Do you know the guilt that person feels on the inside because they know that their actions are
wrong, yet continue to commit wrongs against others in a desperate struggle to feel whole themselves? Then go back to the abusive behaviors in an
effort to escape from that guilt? I do. You have tried to fix their problems, time and time again, while never trying to just understand what drives
your sons issues. There's a reason for that - they don't trust you (or anyone else, including themselves) with that information. 20 years of
psychotherapy, or 3 months of in-patient + neurofeedback are their only two real options. Well the third is to just die, which it looks like they're
on a fast track towards anyways. There is always the one in a million chance they might have a "wake up" moment after an overdose, but given the
details you have shared I rather doubt that's going to ever happen because the need to fill the void will overshadow the risk of death.
Let's see, I've pushed my mother - and her entire family - out of my life because of their issues, have a bad relationship with my father because of
his issues in addition to my step-mom having the same personality as you, watched my sister struggle through overcoming methamphetamine addiction
while losing her children to DHS multiple times, so the problems you're facing are not some kind of new avenue to me.
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Oh and i stole thousands of dollars from my father in my late teens, drank 3 - 5 liters of liquor a week, smoked about 1/2 oz of marijuana a week, at
one point was doing 10 - 20 pills of ecstasy a week, then there was the 40mg/day of adderall that was prescribed to me for awhile. Drugs work to fill
the void, they really do, but they're a short-term solution to a more complex problem.
I can say that after 90 sessions of neurofeedback, that I can go to a bar and have a beer, only purchased 1 5th of liquor last year (Balvine Scotch)
and it lasted me the entire year, and just smoke cigarettes now - which is next on my list to quit.
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