reply to post by NarrowGate
I think if you raise them right, its the act that dose the most
damage, not the actual spanking its self.
I have never hurt the kids or left marks,but the mental power
and idea behind a spanking i think has much more effect than
the actual act.
my kids now, (step kids) were totally diffrent when i moved in
years ago, they had no respect for their mom and did prity much
what they wanted because they knew she would not back things
up. She would threaten things all the time, but i can only think of
one time she actually did anything.
I am kind of the opposite, i let them get away with things to a limit
but when that limit is reached they get warnings to stop or change,
and if that is not done, there are consequences.
My son was doing ok in school, then his grades started to drop,
he got a warning on one grade card and was told to bring it up
by the next, the whole time his mom rode his butt, next report card
was worse, So the next day he went to school, and when he got home
he found his room different, all his video games, the system, the hand held
games, his computer and everything like it was gone. He was told when
his grades come up he can have them back. They have improved a little
but he has one grade still not up to level so he gets another report card with
nothing fun, or at least in his opinion.
My favorite line from my foster daughter one day, she was being a pain
that day and just trying to cause problems, and was arguing, so i cleaned
out her room as well except for her bed and pillow and blanket, and she
came back with what she though would really hurt me, which was
"Your dont matter your not my real dad" *lol* the look on her face
when i responded was priceless... i told her, "Thats right, im not your
real father and dont you ever forget it." *LOL*. Threw her for a loop
she did not know what to say to that.
So far i have 5 kids i claim, none biologically mine, but i dont think that
makes any difference, at least not to me. Family is much more than blood
Although it will bite you in the butt at times, got a letter a few weeks ago,
seems my ex, who fooled around on me and got pregnant by a guy, and
after the shock, i stuck by her and supported her and lil man for 2 years
till she decided she was gay and moved out, is now trying to collect child
support. Now the sad part is about a year after lil man was born, the guy
in question wanted to know for sure and did a mail in DNA test, which she got
a copy of the result's, so there is no question as to who the biological father
is, but yet she is going after me for full child support. Some times i just
dont understand people... But all we can do is try to make the best
choices at the time. Which i know i can look back with a clear conscious and know
i did all i could and did the right thing. (the biological father has yet to do
anything for lil man, not one diaper nothing at all.)
edit on 30-12-2012 by severdsoul because: (no reason given)