Mark Langridge didn’t want children, but his lesbian friends did – so he agreed to donate his sperm. Now his ‘act of kindness’ has come back to haunt him 13 years later, after he received a letter demanding child support payments.
He was not named on the birth certificates of the two children, and played no role in their upbringing – but the Child Support Agency insists he has to pay £26 a week to support them. ‘I feel as if I am the victim of a state-sponsored blackmail plot ... It was purely an act of kindness on my part and now I am being made to pay.’
In the intervening years the lesbian couple separated, leaving the biological mother with both children. She has since started claiming benefits from the State. He said the biological mother’s former partner continues to live near the former family home and sees the girls at weekends – but is not being chased for child support.
Originally posted by ollncasino
Apparently the mistake that Mr Langridge made was to not use an official sperm donation centre but rather to make an informal arrangement with the couple.
‘I did not ask for anything to be documented legally and with hindsight perhaps I should have done,’ he said.
Originally posted by AQuestion
So basically he wanted to have kids, have other people bring them up and not take any responsibility or even know them, nothing new there. Get women pregnant and leave. How is that a generous action, how is donating sperm to strangers generous, how much was he paid for getting women pregnant? Lets consider all sides of the issue.
It does strike me as unfair that he is now being pursued for child support payments while the former partner of the biological mother is not.
Many states have adopted codes, like the Uniform Parentage Act, which seems to specifically say that donors are not parents. Yet, it seems that courts often focus on the relationship between the sperm donor dad and the children when figuring out if there's any legal responsibility.
Originally posted by ollncasino
Mark Langridge donated his sperm to a lesbian couple in 1997 and 2000.
In the intervening years the lesbian couple separated, leaving the biological mother with both children.
so i answered my own question so on the egg donation issue the woman giving birth as opposed to the one donating the egg is the one that is the sole responsible party......so women donating eggs free from child support where as sperm donors if they dont get the right paperwork can be held liable....not really sure how i feel about that
Within twenty-four hours of Mother's Day this year, a California appeals court held that E.G., a woman who gave birth to twins conceived with her lesbian lover's eggs, was the sole legal parent of those twins. The ruling came as a terrible disappointment to K.M., whose eggs had been used to conceive the twins. K.M. had petitioned to establish her parental relationship with the children, but the trial court, affirmed by the appellate court, dismissed K.M.'s petition. The court based its conclusion largely on a consent form that K.M. signed, waiving parental rights prior to the retrieval of her eggs. The decision in this case exposes the complexity of defining the term "mother" as well as the discriminatory impact that traditional default rules can have on a nontraditional family. (In the law, "default" rules are those that apply if the parties do not otherwise stipulate.)
Originally posted by hauster
So, like in the above case in which a man had to pay for his non-biological child, if you hold yourself out to be a parent and therefore by doing so prevent the child from their right to receive benefits from their biological parent, you're considered the parent and must pay up.
The couple never married and split up shortly after Travon was born.
When one of the women revealed she was desperate to have children Mr Langridge agreed to help, as long as there were no strings attached.
this man in no way agreed to help raise the child and the women knew it their relationship fell apart and now its magically some random gay guys job to take care of the child? why aren't you screaming for the girl who left this poor woman with a kid to raise on her own....guess its elementary school logic boys have cooties and must be the bad ones