Originally posted by Roxxi
I agree that I didn't find the e-mail itself to be bullying. Though did it need to be sent? Nah, not at all. If her crew and husband hadn't been
bothered by the e-mail, she probably would have shrugged it off. She knows the things she needs to do for herself. I can't pretend to know how hard
she's tried or if she has at all, and frankly, I don't care. It's her business.
I think there's a big push to get people to view those who are overweight or obese far too negatively. Many articles that I read on the subject show
a faceless overweight person with their belly hanging out. So is that all an obese person is? A big belly? They have nothing to contribute to
society? I call BS on that matter. I've met some pretty lazy skinny people who spend the whole day bumming around in their parents houses and
playing xbox. I've seen people who others would call fat out doing physical labor and doing it well. I've also seen the opposite of that. More
than likely, that was the person's personality to begin with.
I also have issues with where they get the statistics. A lot of it is BMI reporting which isn't a very accurate way to determine
underweight/normal/overweight/obese. I'm sure some of you have seen this before, but below this there is a visual representation of people and their
BMIs. Yes, some of them look exactly like the category the BMI puts them in, but some also do not.
Illustrated BMI Categories
I want to say that I do think people should strive to be as healthy as they can, but that's their choice. I can't make that choice for them and
I'm certainly not going to tell someone how they should live their lives despite my opinion.
This is the sorta confused response that makes the whole issue hard to deal with.
Everyone with a "visible problem" is gonna be judged on it, maybe not harshly, but judged all the same. Assumptions will be made. whether that's
being rude, drunk, obese or even say, have bad acne. But being judged isn't the same as being reduced to simply that problem... so a fat person
isn't JUST a walking ball of fat, a heroin addict isn't just a walking needle... at least, when people spend more than about 10 secs interacting
with someone. I mean, if I'm on a bus and I see a fat guy, and they register with me, I don't think: "hey look at that guy, I wonder what he had
for breakfast, what he thinks about the Iraq War and how his day is going..." no one does that, as a rule; I think, if I bother to even think about
him... considering I see hundreds of people out my car window/bus window/on tv/etc... I think, there's a big fat guy.
So, really, the idea that people like to push back against, that person x is "more than (insert problem)" is fairly nonsensical... the vast majority
of people that actually interact with you have a MUCH more nuanced idea of who you are, your personality, etc., than simply fat or skinny.
Now, is it wrong to try and get people to lose weight by creating a general negativity toward "fat" in the media?
I don't know.
It certainly works.
It works with cigarettes, and drunk driving... it works with littering.... why not diet and exercise?
As for fat people "doing work" - yep, they do work, lots of them, and lots of labourers are indeed fat... and strong... you gotta be pretty strong
to carry around all that weight! But that's a big "so what"... so what if they work, they are also chronically ill in many cases, and damaging
their life, and often the life of people around them. So who cares is they are able to do manual labour? Not me.
As for the statistics, again, so what? If your doctor says your healthy, and you don't have chronic health problems, than simply ignore the labels...
but, guess what, the obesity epidemic is growing in America... not shrinking.. regigging the BMI, etc., isn't gonna make anyone healthier - besides
it's just a guideline.