posted on Nov, 19 2012 @ 07:17 AM
Tell him to get a part time Job. Even something menial like cleaning or fast food. Tell him that it is important to you. It should be.
If he is not trying then you need to show him that it is not something that you find attractive. That it does not compliment your personality.
In the end it will cost you guys your relationship. I was that guy once, and I realized that I was just being selfish. It is more than just his
problem. A de-motivated person can bring you down too.
Tell him that even if he didn't make allot of money or any at all, but just dedicated most of his time to productive ends, that you could respect him.
Work in a soup kitchen, community service, tutor kids at the local Y, anything besides the selfish nature of self amusement. Tell him that it is one
thing to try and fail, and another to not try at all.
Tell him that if most of his time is spent on "me time" that you will start to look at your life as "me time" too. Tell him that it is not that YOU
need more time or money from him, but that you cannot be with some one that only wants to coast by.
It is no small thing. It will eventually cost you your relationship when things get hopeless and then you will be stuck. Make him move his ass now,
and if necessary think about the worth of the relationship and the actual joy it brings you. IF he is capable now of taking care of himself then make
him do so before he needs to depend on you and you snap and have to get rid of him in a worse condition.
It might be the push he needs. If he cares about you he will be motivated enough to try. If he doesn't, then you guys need to figure that out.
Take everything we say here with a grain of salt. We don't know you guys and how things work out at home.
Just my 2 cents.
edit on 19-11-2012 by zedVSzardoz because: (no reason given)