posted on Oct, 1 2012 @ 02:47 AM
It's hard to know what his deal really is without actually knowing everything he does, but:
Looking for work really isn't that difficult or time consuming. Actually getting selected for an interview takes time.
When I was looking for work, there was probably 4-5 places I applied for that actually have you COME IN to fill out an application. The vast, vast
majority either have you just fill out an application online, or send them your resume via email. Then you wait. I know I contacted at LEAST 4-5
hundred different places when I was out of work, and it took up a very small portion of my day.
There only so many jobs available. If he has sent in his resume or filled out an online application for all the jobs he is qualified for, what else do
you expect him to do?
The old fashioned idea of hassling a potential employer with daily phone calls and walking in every day asking to see a manager doesn't work anymore,
for a lot of people. I don't know what line of work your partner is in, but in mine most job listings said specifically to NOT call them. At first I
thought this was a test to see who the real motivated people were. After I got chewed out by scores of HR ladies I realized they really DON'T want
you to call. If they get 200 applications for a position, which odds are they probably are, if all 200 people call them daily and constantly show up
at the work location asking about their application it's going to be a madhouse.
This may not be true for all professions, but in mine, it was. It's a wait and see game. Show them your interested and qualified, and then it's
quite literally out of your hands. You can't do anything about it.
Like I said I applied to tons of jobs and spent very little time each day doing so, because after a little while of firing off resumes and
applications you run out of jobs in your area that you are qualified for. Then you have nothing else left to do but wait.
Unless you want him to relocate, are you willing to give up YOUR job (if you have one, I'm assuming you do) in order to relocate and move to where
there are finer pastures? Then if the tables turn and you are unable to find work in your new locale and he has a job would you want him to dump
Just trying to get you to see it from another perspective. I'm not really defending him as I don't know if he really is just not putting any effort
forth, or if you just don't realize he is doing what he can given his situation.
Stay put and continue to play the waiting game getting a job in your field. Give up getting a job in your field, and learn new skills, which is also
going to take time and odds are, cost more money than simply being unemployed would. Or relocate to a place where your skill set is more appreciated.
Those are his options. Think about the effect on you and your relationship with each of those options. Try to find out if he is really looking for
work or just goofing off. Because it's pretty easy to LOOK like your not doing anything when in actuality you are applying for every available job
you are qualified for in your location.
Think also about what makes you happy. Do you love this guy? Did you get with him for money or because you want to be with him? Unless his financial
situation is dragging you down enough that you'll be on the streets or going hungry or something like that, and you actually care for him, why not
give him some time?
Just food for thought....